Bahati’s marriage to Diana Marua seems to have gone belly up but then again, knowing these two, it might just be a publicity stunt. What I, however, do not believe to be a publicity stunt is the fact that his wife and his baby mama and their love child, Yvette Obura and Mueni Bahati respectively do not see eye-to-eye.
And there can only really be one party to bear the blame of this shameful turn of events and that is firmly going to be Bahati. You see, the pipsqueak gospel artist 9I am not sure whether he is a gospel artist anymore or it depends on the weather and the day) is supposed to provide leadership for his family. Given that his is a blended family that has both his wife and their children together with his baby mama and their love-child, the responsibility of making it work fell on his shoulders.
Granted, some women would go out of their way to frustrate a man’s efforts, we never got the sense that was what was happening. Who am I kidding, Bahati doesn’t strike me as the type of man who would provide leadership strong enough for his family to punch their way out of a wet envelope. So perhaps there were some fracture lines we weren’t privy to between Diana Marua and Yvette Obura.
Usually, such drama is brought about by a lack of clear direction and the need for resources for the children. Perhaps Diana Marua and Yvette Obura were competing for Bahati’s resources including his attention, time and most importantly, money. If Bahati had mentors, they would have guided him through this maze of feminine emotions but seeing as he is on his own navigating some arguably complex and choppy waters, he was bound to fail.
Rather than focusing on beating the man while he is down, perhaps what I should do is instead give him some advice on how to handle his situation. For starters, he needs to get masculine mentors. And unfortunately, the church is plum out of masculine leaders, it just has charlatans and men who have bought into the gynocentric ways of worshipping the virgin mother and all the members of our species who share her set of genitalia. As a result, Bahati will have to look outside the church for masculine men -preferably men who are much older than us (he and I are agemates). Men who have been married for a solid 3 decades or more.
The second thing Bahati needs to do is set up boundaries. He needs to clearly state his intention for his children and then insist the two mothers fall in line because at the end of the day, he can lose both women but his children are his for the rest of his and their lives. One such boundary can be for him to insist that they both celebrate each other’s children on social media. When Mueni has her birthday, Diana Marua had better damn well celebrate it on her account and the same goes for Yvette Obura.
The ultimate last step would be for him to make peace with the idea that he can lose these women at the drop of a hat. He should be willing and ready to walk away from them should they refuse to comply and keep it moving with his life. This, unfortunately, seems to have already been decided for him after Diana marua indicated that she was the one leaving their marriage over rumours of infidelity. But then again, what would one have expected from a man who found joy in self-deprecating humour to the point of calling himself his wife’s son?