Huddah is back to making noise on social media even though she has been on some sort of self-imposed exile to Dubai where it was rumoured she was back to plying her original trade.
What is really amusing about her digital resurgence is that she has been doling out relationship advice as if she would know how a healthy and balanced relationship looks like if she got ensnared in one.
This time, she has set her eyes on infidelity. The irony of this isn’t lost on me and shouldn’t be lost on you either. Anyway, she recently gave women a word of advice when it came to dealing with wayward spouses or partners of varying degrees:
”Men act like women don’t get d*ck thrown at them every minute. Every place they walk if there are men. It’s guaranteed some will want to hit. But we respect ourselves enough not to fuck around coz we respect our S.O…
”Cheating therefore or wanting to have multiple women is greed and lack of self control. What a man can do a woman can do. Even better. Women are just more respectful until respect is no longer served and they move… Temptations are everywhere for both men and women. Don’t act like we ain’t getting dick pics on the DM and thousands of men hollering at us but we chose one. Men cheating in should be an abomination in 2021. It shouldn’t be accepted…”
And while her current opinion is right in the vein of popular female thought, the truth is that it is not quite as logical as we pretend it to be. You see, while with women sex comes easy as it pursues them, men have to be worthy of sex in some way and fashion. Either through unmerited favour of genetics that make them tall, strong or handsome or through merited means such as earning a lot of money and amassing resources.
So when a man makes himself high value, it goes without saying that women look on him favourably whether or not there is genuine desire. That is why marital status is not a hindrance when a woman decides she wants a sugar daddy. Or when a woman agrees to be a clande.
So when Huddah starts telling you that women and men that infidelity is the same for both genders, she is ignoring the fact that men and women aren’t entirely the same and do not even share the same burden of performance. It is indeed true that women get DMed all the time. Hell, they get unsolicited pictures of the male genitalia but it is also true that men do not seek in women the same thing women seek in men.
So all that male attention does little to increase the perceived value a woman has in a man’s eyes. And at the end of the day, if she chooses to act on them then she diminishes her value in his eyes -no high-value man wants a woman every man has been with.
In contrast to this, something I suspect Huddah actually knows all too well, women flock to men in part due to the amount of female attention they can manage to attract. It is called pre-selection and it explains why married men are so “attractive” to single women.
The main bone of contention here is for men to live by their word. If a man promises you fidelity, while it is against his mating strategy, he should stand by his word. That is honour. because if he knows he will not stand true to monogamy, then he should make that clear upfront.
April 22, 2021