JB Masanduku and Tina Kaggia got married back in 2013 and while both parties were happy with their decision to wed, they were unfortunately not destined for a happy marriage. And what’s worse is the fact that both of them contributed to making their relationship toxic.
Both Tina and JB Masanduku had their personal demons that were never addressed and their marriage to each other only served to exacerbate the situation for both parties concerned as well as their young and extended families.
And the writing was on the wall from the beginning for the couple as when they got hitched in the AG Chambers, not a single relative of JB Masanduku’s was in sight, instead choosing to give the wedding a wide berth.
From the outside looking in, the couple seemed happy and a report run in Ghafla that exclusively revealed the depth of the demons plaguing the marriage, the two closed ranks and fought to preserve the public image of their union:
But this actually serves as a lesson to young men on just how important the decision to wed is in the life of a man aswell as showing just how that same decision can serve to ruin a man when the wrong parties get hitched.
You see, like JB Masanduku, many young men feel the burden of making the decision to wed their longterm girlfriends and partners because either the girl in question is done waiting, or the lady’s family is applying pressure, or his own family is pressuring him to wed or because of societies’expectations.
I kid you not. Many a Kenyan man, not unlike JB Masanduku has an age at which he feels he should be married and if that doesn’t come to pass, he feels like a failure.
Problem is, many young men, just like JB Masanduku, do not first deal with their own personal issues and demons and they also do not seek to establish themselves first before walking down the aisle. Afterall, men are said to be the real romantics so they assume everything will work itself out.
What many men forget is that while conventional wisdom is for you to marry a woman you can build with, the current Kenyan situation also has necessitated modern wisdom that teaches us to marry the woman that they can divorce without too much damage to themselves. Why? Because when you see how JB Masanduku and Tina Kaggia’s divorce went, you kinda understand what I mean.
JB Masanduku was recently begging his ex-wife to be allowed to see his children. Besides that, he was also crying about the fact that she tricked him into signing divorce papers.
“She just popped a couple of pills” JB Masanduku narrates how Tina Kaggia tried to commit suicide in front of him
If anything, my advice to men would be for them to first focus on building themselves up. Be the best possible version of yourself that can exist because the unfortunate truth is that women are opportunistic lovers: they wait at the finish line and marry the winner. Do not get married thinking you will have time to build yourself up. You are not of your father’s generation.
And take your time to vet your partner. This nonsense of getting serious after knowing a lady for all of six months is laughable.