Pierra Makena has allowed us to have a conversation about a very sensitive subject matter that we have extensive data about but very few people are willing to have an honest conversation about and that is single parenthood.
We are not here to judge Pierra Makena’s choice of mate nor are we here to bludgeon men for not sticking around because, at the end of the day, that is not all that important for today’s subject.
We are instead going to focus on what Pierra Makena said single motherhood and just why such misleading statements are a huge problem for today’s society that will eventually come home to roost.
Taking to her social media account, Pierra Makena, attempting to keep a stiff upper lip and showing her “warrior self” decided to [ut on a brave face and say that being a single mother isn’t too hard a job; at least not half as hard as she thought it would be. Her message read:
Im soo proud of my years as a single parent than i have ever been in my life.
I thought Raising my child without the father will be disastrous only to realise we just panic and think we can’t do without a man’s help…yet we are capable and strong.
I have become more hardworking…independent and super hero!!
If a man does not want to be in his childs life…never ever force him……assume his position and raise the child for him.
STAY POSITIVE..GOD HAS YOUR BACK.
The reason for my post you ask…? Coz people have been asking how i make it as a single mum and always happy and killing it… yes its coz i dont believe a man holds the key to my success and happiness. Shit happened we move on……CHEERS TO ALL PARENTS RAISING THEIR CHILDREN …KUDOS!
HAPPY 4TH MY LOVE.
While it is commendable for Pierra Makena to keep a positive outlook, we need to understand the full context. And for that, the most important factor is that she has no option of having her daughter’s father involved in her life. That is at least the gist of things as she has put it forth. This is not the case for a lot of women. And even if it is, a father is actually monumental for the successful raising of children, male or female.
Unfortunately, Kenyans and indeed Africans do not really perform researches into social or other phenomena within our societies so information is often scant (that is why most politicians and presidents make stupid decisions and policies. But across the landmass and pond and over to America, a lot of research has been done on the matter of single-parent households that Pierra Makena would do well to educate herself on.
We are going to use the Safe harbour report and in it, we find the following information:
90% of welfare recipients are single mothers
70% of gang members, high school dropouts, teen suicides, teen pregnancies, teenage drug abusers are from single mother households
63% of national suicides are done by individuals who grew up in single-mother homes
90% or runaway children are from single-mother households are from single mother households
85% of children with behavioural disorders are from single-mother households
80% of rapists motivated by displaced anger grew up in single-mother homes
85% of imprisoned youth grew up in single-mother homes
Let that sink in.
When you really look into it, the only “privilege” that should concern any sensible and logical person is giving their children a two-parent nuclear household and when that is impossible, facilitate a great relationship between the child and its father. Give your child every possible privilege it will need to succeed in a world constantly going off-kilter and on its decline.
Feel free to look more into the statistics of why having both parents is important for children here.
Also, now we can refocus on the fact that women need to go back to choosing their partners well. And for the love of God do not bear children for men after knowing them exclusively during the honeymoon phase of the relationship. The responsibility to choose whom you will have children with rests entirely on women.
February 2, 2023
February 2, 2023