“Respect takes time to grow especially after trust has been broken” Terryanne Chebet talks co-parenting struggles

Seasoned Kenyan journalist, Terryanne Chebet has fallen victim of manipulating her co-parent through their child.

Terryanne is well-known and established in the media profession but away from the screens, she is a proud mother of two daughters.

However, her two children are from different fathers, with whom she works with to ensure proper upbringing and growth of her children.

Through her YouTube channel, the Metropol TV General Manager spoke of her co-parenting struggles that saw her go to great extents, just to get back at her ex.

The key she said, is to ‘understand that the child is more important than both your issues’ and this is where respect comes in handy.

Make sure you both understand the child is more important than what you are going through. Try to be in a place where you respect each other, so you have to get there first. Respect takes a long time to grow, especially after trust has been broken or there are feelings of distress that have caused problems.

Speaking of co-parenting, the mompreneur admitted it might look easy but it is not fully so because at the end of the day, one’s interests are put aside for the sake of the children.

It’s easy to co-parent, but I don’t think it’s 100 percent easy. But it had to get to a place where we put the child first. I always say you don’t have to be best friends with your co-parent. Have a cordial relationship that they can call and talk to the child or pick the child.

Ego

Terryanne spoke of women who use the children to take revenge on the man and she was not different either.

The media mogul recalled a time she fell into that trap as well but with age, came maturity and wisdom, she let it go.

All because the child would be at the center of it all and end up being the victim.

I have seen women use the child to revenge on the man. I have done that because you’re upset with the father, but with time and maturity and wisdom, and speaking to older people who have been there, the advice they gave me is that it’s not you who will suffer in the end by denying the child access to the father.

Her closing remark:

So let’s put our egos aside and focus on what is best for the child.