A couple of months back, I argued m,y case that not all men can handle polygamy and I used the example of Jimal Roho Safi and his short-lived marriage to Amber Ray, a femme fatale whom he allowed to destroy his foundational marriage to Amira. And boy has his relationships been an entire train wreck.
At the time what I said was “Amber Ray was the talk of the town after she managed to get herself a husband in the form of Jamal Marlow who is by any interpretation of the words a high net worth individual. What really pushed the narrative into the realm of juicy gossip is the fact that he is a married man prior to his taking her own.
What is interesting is that as soon as he made the declaration in an attempt to give his new wife legitimacy, his other family began to experience cracks as his wife started closing ranks with Amber Ray’s former co-wife (yes, this is the second time this lady has been involved in a polygamous setting) and even he had to accept that indeed, he was experiencing some turmoil pursuant to his decision.
And at this point, the focus shifts entirely onto Jamal and the fact that he is clearly failing at maintaining a polygamous marriage. This is hilarious to witness because his faith actually empowers him to take on two more wives.
So why does he suck so bad at this whole polygamy thing given it is what a lot of men dream of. Let us dive into a few factors that are both his failure and the reason why he might eventually oversee the failure of his household:
Jamal introduces Amberay to his people
#1. He publicly humiliated his wife
You never ever humiliate the mother of your children unnecessarily and that is precisely what he did. You see, Jamal does not know the edicts of what makes marriages work and one of those edicts is the fact that even as you pursue an affair you never humiliate your wife.
And in order to protect his new wife’s public image, he has done precisely that, completely forgetting about his family (at least from what we see on social media) and focusing solely on Amber Ray.
His wife has doubtless had to endure DMS and even whispers as she goes about her business. Some of which are laden with pity while most are laden with vitriol. Trust me when I say that at his weakest, Jamal will have to contend with his first wife’s ire because as the adage goes, hell hath no fury as a woman scorned.
#2. He has taken on a wife who belongs to the streets
Amber Ray is a single mother who got involved with a multimillionaire failed politician in the person of Zaheer Jhanda who found out he couldn’t wife her and stay with his homestead intact. He too was a Muslim.
It is the height of hubris to simply assume you will succeed where your predecessor failed. To top that off, this is a woman who was happy to be a video vixen for the celebrities she dated.
Not only does this socialite not have a great relationship track record, but she was also once shown to have visited a witch doctor -a claim she refused, saying she was acting in an ad that was never released. Add to this the fact that she lacks the common sense to know she shouldn’t be stirring the waters of the family she is now joining and you see why there is a huge cause for concern.
#3. The relationship started out as an affair
As my mentor put it, “If she cheated for you, she will cheat on you”
According to Jamal’s wife, when the two started dating, she had no idea what was going on. This goes contrary to Islamic teachings but more importantly, it is only a fool who thinks that a woman who was willing to be his partner as he partook in infidelity is going to be loyal to him.
Perhaps for now Jamal is safe because they have new relationship energy going for them. Perhaps it is because he is the best possible option available to Amberay or perhaps she simply wants to prove the haters wrong. But the day will come when other options will avail themselves to her. What then?”
And today I am doing my victory lap because I have been proven correct on every front. He is a failure of a husband and father. Why do I make these bold assertions? Because he has failed his wives by undertaking a serious commitment like polygamy in such a piss-poor manner that he has completely humiliated his wife, Amira and he did so for a trollop.
And what can we say about his fathering? He is a father who has subjected his sons to having to watch their mother get humiliated in a way that just keeps giving.
Men like Jimal Roho Safi are men who lacked game and therefore options; before the money started streaming in. And now, he has his pick of women and he is splurging. Imagine having such a man as your father figure. As a result, the two women are still fighting online because he failed to provide leadership and direction.
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