Tag: Amina Mude

Amina Mude is a digrace to her husband Ben Kitili and an example of what not to look for in a partner. I am starting on that strong note because I am of the opinion that when a married woman acts as she does on social media, she is simply advertising sexual availability.

Modern wives like Amina Mude need traditional role models

You see, the couple has just recently come back from a spat that nearly saw the end of their marriage and it was all put out publicly for us to witness because the wife of the house, the woman who is supposed to be helping her man steer the ship is also the one telling us what is happening between them.

You see, the issue here is that Amina Mude clearly doesn’t seem to respect her husband nor her marriage. And her activity on social media is indicative of the fact because her content is entirely like that of a socialite.

Sad goodbyes! Ben Kitili and wife, Amina Mude confirm ‘breakup’ (Screenshots)

And not just your run of the mill socialite but an actual trollop. And she seems aware of just how her content looks because while she would post a lot of borderline thirst traps while her and Ben Kitili were in the doldrums, she cut that nonsense out as soon as they reconciled. She realized that it was not appropriate to share certain types of content if indeed she is trying to salvage her marriage but now that she is comfortable again, she has begun the bullshit.

And we can act as if this type of behaviour is normal but that would only be the case if you’re a degenerate. Why? Because the very concept of marriage speaks against it. When a woman leaves her family to start one with her husband, she forgoes all others. And that doesn’t speak only to the actual physical act of sex but also sexual attention.

Amina Mude´s bikini body becomes the envy of many [photos]

Amina Mude needs to understand that when she and Ben Kitili decided to stick together, her posting videos of herself dancing suggestively or even if she is doing it just for the shock value of lurid content, it is a problem because even a 23 year old kid like me looks to her husband and realizes that his wife doesn’t respect him.

And perhaps I am taking up another man’s pain and hurt when he himself hasn’t felt it. Actually, if anything, he seems to enjoy the nonsense which explains a lot. But this is a microcosm of the issue a lot of young men have with their female peers and why the rate of marriage is dropping. As a man, I look at marriage with the realization that I am foregoing my evolved sexual preferences and strategy for multiple partners and my partner would bulk at the notion of not being sexual on social media for no reason at all.

Video of Ben Kitili’s wife shaking her booty leaves jaws dropping online 

Amina Mude for me is a disgrace to her husband because she is not only advertising sexual availability but also her hypergamous nature. Think about it, given the fact that she is back to posting suggestive content under the guise of it being “comedy” is that she simply failed to satisfy her hypergamous monkey swinging the last time around. She tried to leave her husband but failed to find a man who wanted to be with her in Ben Kitili’s stead. That is why she came back.

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Amina Mude has just confessed that she was probably the architect of the end of her marriage and from the looks of things, it is all down to her lack of impulse control that led her emotions to run unchecked.

If the rumours of their break up are true, Ben Kitili and Amina Mude should reconcile

According to her, the fact that we even found out that her marriage was on the rocks is because she impulsively revealed that information. We weren’t even meant to know that they were having issues in the first place but as the wise from days long gone often would say, loose lips sink ships.

And indeed, now we know that Amina Mude and her husband, Ben Kitili aren’t on the best of terms and their marriage is on the brink. To add to that, we know that she poured crazy fuel on a stupid fire.

Sad goodbyes! Ben Kitili and wife, Amina Mude confirm ‘breakup’ (Screenshots)

And therein lies the biggest issue even I can see that the couple faces; they do not know what to hold secret and what to keep private.
Amina Mude needs to understand that secrecy locks the demons in while privacy locks out the demons. And given that the two of the,m are a team, they need to know to address their issues privately.

Ben Kitili has kept his mouth shut because he knows that while every couple faces issues at different points of their lives, the couples that survive are the couples that only talk to people who genuinely want to help them. Amina Mude needs to be taught that her social media followers are not her friends, and they are often not even mere well-wishers.

Amina Mude´s bikini body becomes the envy of many [photos]

Or maybe the issue is that Amina Mude wants fame and status. She wants to make a name for herself as a Kenyan celebrity. That is why she was willing to open her marriage and more so her husband, Ben Kitili to detractors and haters.

What Amina Mude needs is for her to go to one of her aunts, an older one who has been happily married for a long time and ask for advice. She needs to learn to turn to her family for advice and not social media. She needs to get that one aunty she knows she can trust who is all for team Kitili because as I said earlier, she and her husband are a team.

“Quran and the Bible are foreign books” Boniface Mwangi reins in religious zealots castigating Ben Kitili and Amina Mude

And I am reminded of the fact that it used to fall upon the shoulders of aunties to perform the duty of marital counsellors to their nieces and daughters. Amina Mude is a cause to bring back this aspect of African tradition. Your single friends won’t help you and even that friend of yours who has been married for five years can’t help you. A woman needs to go back to her aunty who is happily married for over twenty years.

Only your aunty has enough experience having seen it all in her marriage and she is the only one who would help you. The problem with going to your mummy dearest is that it is an intrusion of your parent’s privacy.

Amina Mude needs to look to the right places to get answers about marriage.

 

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Ben Kitili and his wife Amina Mude have gone their separate ways. This information has lit up the internet with everyone quick to share their theories on why the split occurred.

Revealed! Why Ben Kitili’s wife was forced to end their relationship

But at the end of the day, my assertion is that they will be fine and will even get back together again soon enough. Why you ask? because Ben Kitili and Amina Mude have one of the most powerful love stories ever.

Ben Kitili and Amina Mude were had to fight against those that put religion ahead of love to actually get their marriage going. You see, Amina Mude is a Muslim. According to the Islamic faith, when it comes to a woman of the faith marrying a Christian or anything other than a Muslim,

Sad goodbyes! Ben Kitili and wife, Amina Mude confirm ‘breakup’ (Screenshots)

“This day [all] good foods have been made lawful, and the food of those who were given the Scripture is lawful for you and your food is lawful for them. And [lawful in marriage are] chaste women from among the believers and chaste women from among those who were given the Scripture before you, when you have given them their due compensation, desiring chastity, not unlawful sexual intercourse or taking [secret] lovers. And whoever denies the faith – his work has become worthless, and he, in the Hereafter, will be among the losers“.

And in a previous article I wrote celebrating the fact that they stood with each other, I wrote about Ben Kitili and Amina Mude saying,

Ben Kitili´s wife opens up on the struggles of convincing her parents about their marriage

It can be argued that while his relationship and marriage was fought on faith-based arguments, Ben Kitili can relate to situations in which Kenyans are told they cannot marry members of specific ethnic communities. And this is not a new or novel situation to Kenya either. this is a reality all across Africa and the world.

Ben Kitili jumps to Alex Mwakideu´s defense amidst infidelity claims

Amina Mude’s decision to stand by her man is infact an important decision because it spoke to more than just her situation. It spoke to the pain many find themselves having to endure when faced with the dilemma of either choosing the person they love or their family. I for one am happy to say that in this case, Ben Kitili can say love won out.

However, that doesn’t seem to hold any water when it comes to the decision of whether or not they would stay together but this history would give them both some pause for thought given how hard they originally fought to be together.

Another reason why they will stay together is that Amina Mude is a Muslim. Who knew this fact would stand to save their marriage? If indeed Ben Kitili has a wandering eye, then he could always get 3 more wives and Amina’s religion permits it.

 

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Ben Kitili has a beautiful wife in the shape of Amina Mude. The pair have weather a rather interesting storm that most would like to convince themselves no longer exist only for it to rear its ugly head: tribalism and religious separatism.

Ben Kitili reacts after Muslims condemn him for marrying their woman 

You see, ben Kitili is a practising Christian and a Kamba. his wife is of Cushitic descent and a practising Muslim. According to the Quran, while it recognizes Jesus Christ (Issa) as a major prophet whose return will indeed signal the end of the world and coming of judgment, Muslim women cannot marry out of the faith. Men however are given guidelines that allow them to marry “watu wa kitab” 

“This day [all] good foods have been made lawful, and the food of those who were given the Scripture is lawful for you and your food is lawful for them. And [lawful in marriage are] chaste women from among the believers and chaste women from among those who were given the Scripture before you, when you have given them their due compensation, desiring chastity, not unlawful sexual intercourse or taking [secret] lovers. And whoever denies the faith – his work has become worthless, and he, in the Hereafter, will be among the losers“.

“Quran and the Bible are foreign books” Boniface Mwangi reins in religious zealots castigating Ben Kitili and Amina Mude

And thems the breaks.

So you can see what it is that informed all the naysayers who spoke up against Amina Mude’s marriage to be Kitili. However, there is conventional wisdom that reminds us that Kenya is, in essence, a secular nation. What this fact means is that we are not beholden to any religious dogma nor doctrine.

In pictures: KTN anchor Ben Kitili exchanges vows with his baby mama Amina Mude in unique interfaith wedding ceremony

This fact alone allowed Ben Kitili and his lady love, Amina Mude to be honest with each other, and start a life together. But what they experienced is actually not new to a lot of Kenyans who found themselves captive to the fact that they are different ethnicities or from different faiths.

It can be argued that while his relationship and marriage was fought on faith-based arguments, Ben Kitili can relate to situations in which Kenyans are told they cannot marry members of specific ethnic communities. And this is not a new or novel situation to Kenya either. this is a reality all across Africa and the world.

Amina Mude’s decision to stand by her man is infact an important decision because it spoke to more than just her situation. It spoke to the pain many find themselves having to endure when faced with the dilemma of either choosing the person they love or their family. I for one am happy to say that in this case, Ben Kitili can say love won out.

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