ominated Senator Karen Nyamu has opened up about the challenges in her relationship with Mugithi artiste Samidoh. In a candid live session on social media, Nyamu said that she is facing a lot of emotional turmoil due to the situation.
Nyamu and Samidoh have two children together. However, Samidoh is also married to Edday Nderitu, who is the mother of his three other children. Nyamu said that she is aware of Edday’s relocation to the United States with her children, and she is worried that she may not return.
Nyamu said that she is praying for God to help her deal with the situation. She said that she believes that God will answer her prayers, but she is still struggling to find peace.
Nyamu’s revelation has sparked a lot of debate online. Some people have expressed sympathy for her, while others have criticized her for getting involved with a married man.
No matter what people think, it is clear that Nyamu is going through a difficult time. She is a strong woman, and she will hopefully be able to find the strength to overcome these challenges.
Here are some of the changes I made to the original article:
You see, she has had two failed long-term relationships that were public and even then they both feel because of who she is as a woman and a wife.
Senator Karen Nyamu
The most known for all its glamour and toxicity was Karen Nyamu’s relationship with Samidoh which ended up a laughable mess simply because she does not understand how to be a partner and wife to a man but would rather indulge her idiosyncrasies.
We were treated to the less noble aspects of who she is. What we saw whenever her relationship with come up was an insecure woman who was more than willing to hurt others and humiliate her partner who happens to be the father of one of her kids.
Karen Nyamu aka Karenzo
And therein lies the question of the day; how can Karen Nyamu demand anything of a man yet she herself is not “wife material”? Think about that, she is so entitled that despite the fact that no man worth his salt would ever contemplated having her for anything more than recreational uses, she feels entitled to the best of the best men.
To be fair Kenyan men on Sims and they are more than willing to make wives out of single mothers and former heaux such as Amber Ray, but the toxicity with which we saw her and some idiots conduct their affair is bound to scare off any man with a modicum of self-respect.
Karen Nyamu beaten by Samidoh in front of daughter
And even some of the things she wanted out of her potential partner why are indicative of how immature she still is and an example of this would be when miss Karen Nyamu said she wants a spontaneous man. Any woman who has matured beyond the level of a teenager understands that spontaneity is not a characteristic of a healthy relationship.
If anything what women want is stability and though it might not be as exciting it pays for the man to be dependable rather than erratic and this is something she has still not come to grips with. That’s because she herself is unstable and impulsive.
One can only hope that Karen Nyamu learns to accept the spinster life because she would otherwise introduce chaos to the life of any man she attends to start a life with.
Karen Nyamu is a rather odd one and her way of dealing with Samidoh rejection is not only pathetic but juvenile. Why is it that it’s only after a woman gets damn that she remembers that a man’s manhood was tiny?
Antiques over December when she attended a concert he was performing in for Kenyans living in Dubai caused a national scandal as they put their country to shame seeing as she’s a nominated senator behaving like a little child.
Karen Nyamu aka Karenzo
Videos surfaced online showing Karen Nyamu attacking Samidoh legal wife, Edday Nderitu upset the powers within her political party to the point where they have been discussing whether or not to kick her off not just the party ticket but her nominated senatorial seat.
Things have gotten so bad that Kenya’s deputy president is literally acting like a village chief commenting on their marital affairs. Was the man of the House to put his women in check or he would ban him from flying out of the country.
Karen Nyamu
Karen Nyamu’s response when she spoke on the matter on social media was to mock her common-law husband manhood claiming it to be non-existent. This was so juvenile it was downright pathetic. The kind of response one would expect from a prepubescent rather than an adult woman and mother of two. Why is it a woman always attempt to attack a man’s member whenever their relationship comes to an end?
The reason for this is usually because they have little to no grievance so they manufacture a body-shaming allegation that few can verify and that serves to humiliate the very essence of the man who has agreed them. This tactic usually works on the playground or in high school but fails to impress anyone with a more than lukewarm room-temperature IQ.
When you have nothing of substance like Karen Nyamu, with regards to a reason you can articulate as to why you dislike someone or you have issues with someone, or when you know you are the root cause of the problem, you tend to resort to Ad hominem attacks and insults. This is under the misguided hope that you can dissuade people from digging deeper into the merit of your argument.
Karen Nyamu’s situation with the father of one of her children is one that is very clear she is the antagonist constantly picking fights with a man or his wife either in real life or on social media. This conduct is unbecoming of a national leader yet we have grown so accustomed to this level of childishness from her that we tend to turn a blind eye.
Riggy G recently asked Samidoh to control his women and this was in reference to the scandal that shocked the nation when both his wives, Edday Nderitu and nominated senator Karen Nyamu got into a brawl at a club in Dubai.
It comes as no surprise to anyone who can see the matrix for what it is, that the women have been infantilized and it’s the men who carry the blame for their misconduct.
First wife, Eddy with hubby Samidoh
I am of course referencing the fact that two grown women decided to fight to settle their differences in public rather than interact with each other as adults would regardless of whether or not they’re getting along. Samidoh was called for a Dubai performance months and his two women decided to settle their differences publicly.
You would think that feminists would be up in arms over the fact because two adult women one of whom is a sitting I’m being infantilized and fitted like children who cannot be held responsible for their behaviour. But no, the witches’ coven is silent as a grave.
Samidoh with wife, Edday Nderitu
It is interesting that regard he has chosen to censure Samidoh rather than hold a sitting senator whose ticket was sponsored by his political party responsible for her temper tantrums. To say that they humiliated the nation on a public stage is indeed true but it is rather cowardly both intellectually and literally for him to refuse to deal with an adult who misbehaved.
One has to wonder whether Samidoh would be arrested if Karen Nyamu were caught breaking the law because she’s clearly not responsible for her mental faculties and decision-making. If she were, say caught up in a corruption scandal, would he be a co-accused simply because she is his woman?
Samidoh with baby mama, Karen Nyamu
But I guess that’s Kenya for you; women are equal and intelligent beings until responsibility has to be taken. And don’t act offended by what I said I’m merely stating the unsaid rules that have been exemplified by Kenya’s deputy president.
Karen Nyamu is obsessed with Samidoh. Well, we all already knew that which means the only new news here is why she’s so attached to a married man. Enough for her a woman who many would consider modern to be willing and eager to be his second wife.
What is it about Samidoh that is so special that it has captivated the nominated senator’s mind and heart? Why is a woman who could get any simp she was so enamoured by the Mugithi singer?
Karen Nyamu
There isn’t much that we know about Karen Nyamu’s relationship with her father but that is the one aspect that would be truly telling. Perhaps her father was estranged from her either at birth or as she grew up. Perhaps he was not present in an active capacity in her life: Yes he was there, and yes he did pay bills but beyond that, he was a stranger to his daughter not taking an interest in her day-to-day life.
But that would be too simple a solution and while I am not want to thumb my nose at Occam’s Razor, I will take that off the table for now as we know very little about her relationship with her parents. What will focus on is the “je ne sais quoi” that her man seems to have.
And first up is his status. What probably attracted her to Samidoh, is the fact that he was a star. He is a self-made man who owes no one his success and he used his talents to climb out of poverty. Everyone knows him or rather, it would be more apt to say that everyone wants to be acknowledged by him. And hypergamy factors into this.
Or maybe the second thing is what attracted her to her. The fact that he is a truly successful artist who has such a busy calendar he literally has to schedule time for his family and friends. He is one of the few Kenyan artists who leads a truly jet-setting life. Show me one woman that wouldn’t want to be around such success.
Karen Nyamu aka Karenzo
Karen Nyamu doubtless can also confirm the third possible reason which would be his prowess in bed. Maybe the reason she cleans on to him so dearly is the fact that he is a gifted lover both in endowment and understanding which type of motion to rock the boat with. But on that will never truly know unless we ask her co-wife Edday Nderitu.
It could also be the fact that he is a bona fide bad boy. I saw this when he thought she was cheating on him and he went full caveman on her. Her love language is having her skull and face pounded with fists.
Karen Nyamu beaten by baby daddy in front of daughter
But what I am most convinced it could be is something sociologists call “preselection”. The fact that Karen Nyamu man was married and also the fact that he seems to draw female attention and desire wherever he goes is a powerful aphrodisiac. Maybe Karen Nyamu is not only the type of woman who is attracted to a man with a wedding band or his finger but also one who continues to draw raw, visceral desire from other women.
Robert Alai recently warned the newly elected Bomet Woman Rep, Linet Toto against hanging out with Karen Nyamu. According to him, the only thing Samidoh’s side chick would do is to lead down the path of orgies and drugs.
What was even more shocking than Robert Alai’s statement was the fact that he managed to reinvent himself from one of the most divisive voices on the internet to becoming an MCA and representing the people of Kileleshwa.
Karen Nyamu
But aside from that, and sticking to the matter at hand, it is the fact that so many people agreed with his sentiments of Karen Nyamu. No joke, his comments were heavily supported.
I understand why on a social level women would be put off by the nominated Senator but why would they be so upset from a political standpoint? And why do men too have strong opinions about her?
Karen Nyamu puff puff passing
Well, for starters, you need to understand how people view Linet Toto. They see her as a stark contrast from Karen Nyamu. She is the good girl who has done everything right and still has her morals solid.
Meanwhile, Samidoh’s side chich has had scandal after scandal and even went after a married man. And her defence was, “if not me then it would be another”. And we have to question that because it shows low morals.
Karen Nyamu back when Samidoh rocked her head for cheating
Na huyu alidhani amegonga point akisema hivyo. So what happens when a woman who is seen as the darling of the people starts hanging out with someone who embodies everything society hates about modern women? Well, you get the reaction we are currently witnessing.
And this is a reputation that will haunt Karen Nyamu to the point it will handicap her political ambitions. Men see her and see a problematic woman. She reminds them of their deepest fear of dating and marrying modern women. So they want on a visceral level to avoid and even punish her for the sins of other women in their lives like her.
Karen Nyamu recently revealed that she has taken to dressing alot more modestly because she is trying to attract a husband and that is one of the most hilarious things I have heard the lawyer cum politician say since she came to the limelight.
“Today I have wrapped up myself top to bottom to try find someone to pay my dowry, si nikujipanga (plan yourself)”
Karen Nyamu with new bae?
And while this might have been a joke, one thing that is universally known about humour is that there is always more than just a kernel of truth in it. And this is the case today.
We know this because while she was with Samidoh, she was eager for the country to know her as his second wife and she even introduced him to her parents. However, Karen Nyamu and his relationship was short-lived and ultimately devolved into violence when he accused her of cheating on him and she shared photos and videos of the aftermath of his attack on her.
It was all a mess. First, we saw her struggle for legitimacy from Samidoh’s audience and her fans despite the fact that he was already married to Edday Nderitu. When that wasn’t forthcoming, she started attacking his wife on social media and they traded insults and finally, the situation I described above.
One thing that is clear for all to see is that this is not the type of woman you want to make a wife of. Karen Nyamu is not wife material. Not by a longshot. But there is a coincidence of wants here. With weak-minded men like the Mugithi singer slash police officer, who would want to be with an attractive woman like her. But she needs a marriage for two reasons, the first is that she is a woman of a certain reputation and renown which is not positive. And secondly, she is a politician and this is something that will be used against her.
Karen Nyamu puff puff passing
Karen Nyamu isn’t stupid, far from it. She is aware that her reputation is one of a homewrecker. She is known by all women countrywide as being the source of agony for a wife, a mother and ultimately, one of them. And she desperately needs to shake that reputation. The only way she can do this is to find a simp who would be willing to wife her up and baptise her from the reputation of being what her actions against Edday Nderitu paint her as.
Then there is the political aspect of things. It’s bad enough that we already know her from the social lens of being a homewrecker. It’s so much worse to realise she is a woman who is supposed to appeal to a rather Christian conservative electorate who would want to understand why she cannot get herself a husband. What’s wrong with her?
Karen Nyamu
We even saw her political boss recently ask Azimio’s presidential running mate about her single life so this is something even her own allies aren’t above attacking that fact. So it really isn’t that she would be a good wife and be able to build with a man but rather that circumstances and ambitions are forcing her down the path of looking for a husband.
Samidoh is the man! It would seem the Men’s Conference 2022 has been a success given just how much he has managed to man up and show that unlike the rest of Kenya’s make celebs, he has no intention of remaining a simp for the entertainment of anyone. What am I talking about?
Well, he recently stated that he has no intention to raise another man’s bastard. What is interesting is the fact that he had two wives -well, really, a wife and a partner in Edday Nderitu and Karen Nyamu who are both currently pregnant… So who could he possibly be speaking about?
Samidoh
Well, what we also know about Samidoh’s household is the fact that a few months back he put hands on Karen Nyamu and it was all allegedly about the possibility of paternity fraud but we do not know anything about that other than what is whispered.
However, even as she has been on her campaign run for the Nairobi Senatorial seat, we were treated to images of her kissing another man (not the Kikuyu benga musician) while still heavily pregnant with a baby she claims to be his.
Happy couple, Eddy with hubby Samidoh
He however took to TikTok to reveal he has no intention to raise another man’s offspring. And I have literally raised myself to my feet and clapped for him. And no, I am not talking about a slow clap but rather, a riotous cheer. Samidoh is the man!
Kenyan men and young boys do not have a lot of real men to look up to in pop culture. We do not have instances of masculinity shown by our celebrities. Instead, we are treated to useless men like Daddy Owen who pine over their cheating wives who continue to shovel defecate on their heads. We have to stomach men like Eric Omondi simping.
Samidoh with his bubbly and fun baby mama, Karen Nyamu
Now we are being shown an instance of masculine instinct by Samidoh. I mean, sure, he has made a lot of missteps in the past, sure he has done a lot of nonsense in the past that I do not condone BUT he has shown he has a spine and that is something we should celebrate: his testosterone is finally flowing.
You see, anyone with a brain could see that his choice of a second wife/ paramour was a poor one. But we all know that a lot of men do not know how to think clearly when they are horny. However, he has begun to correct the error of his ways.
Samidoh with his wife and two kids
Only a fool willingly allows himself to be cuckolded and Samidoh is not that fool. And we have to celebrate this fact. Especially given the fact that we know 30% or more of Kenyan men are raising children not of their own making and the kicker is that they are doing so unknowingly.
We need more men willing to stand up for their own rights and interests like Samidoh is doing. I guarantee you that had it been one of these simps like DJ Mo and Daddy Owen, they would have blindly accepted responsibility without actually verifying paternity because that is what would make them good men. Absolute folly!
Karen Nyamu has revealed her intent to vie for the Nairobi Senatorial seat and I have to say that this has completely intrigued me because of who she is. That seat will be one of the best electoral positions to keep an eye on as it will definitely attract fireworks.
Why? Because she has been one of the most controversial Kenyan celebs for the past year; 2020/21 and she went all out in the manner in which she engaged her audience, choosing to let the entire world know that she was dating such and such personality and then fighting his wife publicly and sharing even more details about their relationship moving forward -that person is Samidoh by the way, I need that to be clear.
Karen Nyamu parades bump
And given the nature of politics (it’s dirty) she might well have given her opponents some prime ammo and she should be prepared for the salvos that will come her way. Or maybe Karen Nyamu has an ace up her sleeve? Or perhaps it is the deluded belief that because she has borne it all for the world to see, she has nothing that her opponents can attack. Who’s going to tell her?
Because I guarantee you that politicians know how to stoop low and punch below the belt. Just because she has made her love life and the life of her child by Samidoh a circus and public affair does not mean it has been milked dry and trust me when I say that politicians will find a way to do exactly that.
Karen Nyamu puff puff passing
But at a certain point, people will have to do the deciding for themselves which would mean that a politicians jabs can only do so much… I guess you haven’t heard about the illusory truth effect. What I mean by that is that the damage will be devastating but I guarantee you that you will suffer the consequences of such attacks. But I will acquiesce that ultimately, it is up to the voters to decide.
Maybe she is under the assumption that because the smut and nonsense content surrounding Mike Sonko’s name did nothing to dissuade the voters, she is immune to her own scandals. Again I ask, who is going to tell her? Karen Nyamu is not going to receive the same sort of reception as he did and we could blame double standards for that.
Samidoh with his bubbly and fun baby mama, Karen Nyamu
But, there is a very interesting chance that she would win because people know her. After all, Kenyans are a peculiar lot and her having been on their social media feed, and the fact that she was constantly the subject of gossip -she will seem more familiar. Then again, a lot of Kenyan voters are female so they would not be seeking to reward Karen Nyamu for ruining Samidoh’s marriage or at least attempting to do so.
All in all, if she does decide to actually vie for office, the one guarantee is that it will make for an exciting election cycle.
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By now you already know about the shitshow that is the relationship between Mugiithi singer Samidoh and political socialite and sometime lawyer, Karen Nyamu.
The two have had a storied love life even though they haven’t even seen half a decade together. And as a result, they have become a mainstay on gossip tabloid and entertainment rags.
Samidoh with his bubbly and fun baby mama, Karen Nyamu
But what is worrying is the fact that the two, Samidoh and Karen Nyamu have reportedly had a physical altercation that could have escalated to the point of tragedy.
According to the sometime lawyer, she was the victim of her musician “husband’s” wrath after he accused her of cheating on him while pregnant with his child.
Karen Nyamu beaten by baby daddy in front of daughter
On the police officer cum singer’s (in Kenya this term is loosely used) side of things, he swung into action even though he is unsure as to whether or not she had indeed cheated or was in Mombasa with her coworkers or a lover.
However, one has to wonder whether this is not something we could have foreseen: not the violence part but rather the nasty breakup.
Samidoh and Karen Nyamu do not understand that how a relationship starts is exactly how it will end; if it started under a shroud of controversy and secrecy, then that is precisely how it will end -in scandal.
Samidoh and Karen Nyamu started by hiding everything under the cover of darkness. They operated behind his wife, Eddah Nderitu’s back. And now they have to contend with everything coming to light.
The love drunk fool of a singer was eager to disregard every warning he was given about the political socialite’s reputation. And now he is reaping the outcome of his willful ignorance.
Do we really want to mourn this couple? What we should do instead is to point at them and laugh. Let the rain beat them into a pulp. Pun unintended.
Samidoh is living proof of the Bible verse that says, “So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth. “I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel” and while it might seem like a misnomer for me to quote the Bible about a philanderer bare with me as I make my reasons bare.
You see, the Kikuyu Benga crooner was involved in one of the most public scandals of the year as his illicit affair with Karen Nyamu was exposed for all to see and then they subsequently had a love-child together.
Nyamu with Samidoh’s son
He was not too smart in the way he allowed the affair to play out in public because he let his clandestine lover or clande to insult his wife. This fed Karen Nyamu’s hubris as she believed he would eventually drop Edday Nderitu and shack up with her. And boy did she unload some choice salvos at her love rival.
But when push came to shove, Samidoh was forced to put his foot down and choose one. I was of the opinion he should have been proactive all along which would have allowed him to become a polygamous man through a seamless transition but he fumbled the ball and had to drop Karen Nyamu.
Samidoh
This is proof that when a man’s back is pressed to the wall and he has to choose a woman to keep, he will always go for his young love, the wife of his youth who was with him even before he had anything of note.
This was his first love, while he was still a bumbling young man. This was the woman who had accepted to be with him before the fame and notoriety. She was the woman who had chosen to be with him in spite of all her other suitors.
Samidoh steps out with wife days after scandal
Whenever Samidoh looks at her, he sees all the hopes and dreams of his young life that have come to pass and he looks at her with wife goggles on in wonderment and amazement. That is not something any clande can hope to imitate.
Samidoh with his first wife, Edday
And he is exactly an example of what men look at when it comes to deciding whether or not to leave their partners. But you know, keep deluding yourselves that men treat the wife of their youth with the same consideration they the women who came into their lives after they were established.
Slayqueens are a peculiar breed indeed. You see, when we look at their lives through the window they allow us (Instagram), they are leading the type of life that can give any impressionable fool enough envy to drive them insane.
From partying with the most powerful men in the country to hanging out with the most popular celebrities, slayqueens seem to be leading the type of high flying life they aren’t qualified for outside of being attractive and sexually available.
And when their followers raise questions regarding the type of situations they put themselves in or the men they are dealing with, we get called haters. You need to understand that a lot of the men who are busy asking you to reconsider are white knight simps who are selfish enough to want to protect you from making your mistakes. I get it, the smart play here is for you to simply ignore these women and let them reap the harvest from the seeds they sowed but it is what it is with such men.
Then when the relationships go awry, that is when slayqueens like Swabrina (Mr Seed’s new baby mama), Jemutai (Professor Hamo’s baby mama), Karen Nyamu (Samidoh’s groupie), Kapoor Vixen (B Classic’s baby mama) and all the other chokora pop up to beg for sympathy and ask us to shame the men they themselves chose to sire children for.
Senior slayqueen Karen Nyamu with Samidoh
And that is where I have an issue with these slayqueens. You say we get no say in how you choose to use your body or whom you share your viscous innards with. But as soon as you get a baby, you want us to get involved in the fruits of their uterus.
So we do not have the power to help them think through how they choose to employ their feminine parts but we are invited to weigh in on the results of her coitus with these men and the fruits of their uterus? As one of my mentors always says,
“Make it make sense”.
The audacity of it all is mind-boggling. When Bridgette Achieng was dealing with West African men, the only thing that was our business was her having fun and showing off the gifts she was given. When that man became a deadbeat dad, she started running to us to get us to buy tickets to the pity party. Why?
Stella Koitie popularly known as Jemutai invited us to get involved with her uterus after she and Hamo had a falling out
And it is time we give ourselves enough respect not to get involved in how these slayqueens chose to use their uterus even when they go to our timelines to beg us to get involved because I guarantee you that they will not change or play their games smarter. They will simply make noise the next time some celeb or politician impregnates them.
When you look at female celebs like Anerlisa Muigai, Frida Kajala, This is Ess, Karen Nyamu or Amberay the one thing they have in common is that they are very open about their relationships.
The second thing they have in common is failed relationships that were publicised and cast to all our social media timelines because they are the ones who opened up their relationships for the adoring public to witness and experience.
I would have added Yummy Mummy to that list of female celebs but to be fair, she quickly read the script and decided to leave her relationship off her social media brand content. So in the face of new evidence, I shall adjust my opinions accordingly.
Anyway, these female celebs do not seem to learn from each other’s failures nor do they have any sort of introspection and as a result, we are always so well informed as to what it is that is going on in their relationships. We know when things are great and we know when the relationship has gone belly up without them ever having to confirm anything. This is usually because when there is a problem, they delete their man off their page. When they are sad because of “bae”, they share fake inspirational quotes.
NERO company CEO, Anerlisa Muigai
But as they say,
sicut superius et inferius.
Or you know, as we plebs would say it, “As above, so below”.
That means that when you are into a girl and you notice that just like Kenyan celebs, she is into posting everything on her social media account, that is a huge red flag as to why you shouldn’t date her. And we can really base the entire argument on what we know about Kenyan celebs and their failed marriages.
#1. Not one influencer can claim that having their relationship out in the public strengthened it
The reason why this is not a thing, is because now you have to also weigh the opinions of your social media inlaws. We invite the burden of their expectations and also attempt to sell them an illusion. If you have more than a lukewarm IQ, then you know that relationships are not a walk in the park. They have a lot of ups and downs and every day you’re in one is a decision to maintain it.
You however lose the freedom to navigate the issues in your relationship and work out a solution in privacy. So imagine having an issue with your girlfriend who posts everything on social media and then her followers start telling her to move on and find a better guy… Why bother even getting into this position with her to begin with?
#2. It opens new avenues for insecurities to seep in
If your girlfriend is either an influencer or she is always following what her favourite influencers are doing, then you’re familiar with the headache of having her compare herself and her life to what she sees online. These are also the girls in my class who get upset when bae likes another girl’s photos.
Sharon-Mundia
And woe on you if she follows these relationship influencers. She starts packing on the drama and pressure because This Is Ess was given a helicopter ride before she was proposed to. And lets face it, younger women are more impressionable than their older counterparts so you can imagine the headache you’d have to contend with. She wants to go out on a date to the same expensive place her friend was at and posted to her IG stories. So why bother? And that is on the more mild side of things.
That was the last thing you want. Every time you post something and get a couple of likes, every time you like another girl’s post or when you ignore hers, she immediately assumes it is because you have a romantic interest in her. Or having to constantly assure your partner that you’re still into her but you still like the risque photo that her friend posted -innocently.
Imagine if she loves thirst trapping men online? Or she has an Only Fans account? Now your sanity is constantly tested when she posts herself and a whole host of horny men shoot their shot. How then can you create a successful relationship? You can’t.
Amberay has made herself a laughing stock even as she has forced her husband’s hand and made him have to come out and publicly acknowledge her as his second wife and it is rather hilarious to see her bangle being in a polygamous marriage.
In all fairness, while this piece will focus on Amberay, I have to also acknowledge that Karen Nyamu falls squarely into the group of women who are either so flawed or damaged to even realize that with their single mother status, being a second wife is often as good as the going will get for them.
Amberay is not a bastion of intelligence
We have now watched as Amberay has not only opened herself and her family to public scrutiny but even her husband, Jamal “Roho Safi” and his family and marriage. In essence, she has diminished her value as a caregiver by opening up their children and family domez to all of us. And for a high-value man like Jamal, this should be a worrying thing indeed but he is still caught up in their “new relationship energy” to open his eyes to this fact.
Anyway, back to the matter at hand. African culture allows for polygamous marriages. In most cases this is in the form of polygyny but in few, rare cases, polyandry is accepted. Polygyny is when a man has multiple wives or partners, polyandry is when a woman has multiple men as her husbands.
In modern Africa and Kenya, polygamy is frowned upon because it is not Western culture. So we have had women like Amberay who would traditionally have benefited freely from polygamy go begging for the opportunity. Our ancestors had a simple and strong understanding of who we are as human beings. Men will always look to spread their seed. Society and civilisation has tried to control this aspect of male behaviour and failed. Women will always look for the best possible male seed.
Amberay, however, is also the beneficiary of the fact that African society understood that single mothers were often undesirable to eligible bachelors seeking wives. And surviving back then on one’s own was a near impossibility. That struggle was made worse for women who would have had to face the world on their own as they protect their baby. So as a compromise, our ancestors would often marry single mothers off to older men who have the means to take care of other men’s offspring, and were willing to do so.
Amberay is ruining the beginning opf her stint as a second wife
Whatever the case may be, in Kenya,, we have seen a rise in the number of women who are willing to take on the mantle of the second wife. But, more often than not, because we banished this practice to kaburi la sahau, we have never learnt how to make such marriages work. Not even our Muslim brothers seem to understand how to make such relationships work.
Amberay found a man who was willing to overlook the fact that she is not only a single mother but already has one failed marriage and was once a socialite. yet she is still antagonizing Jamal’s household. She is busy rubbing the fact that she has her new man in the face of everyone, in the process humiliating his wife. That is not how to go about it but then again, Amberay shows strong signs of being a narcissist.
Jamal Roho Safi’s family before he took on a second wife
Rather than thinking about how she can make their blended family work, Amberay is busy parading her man much to the spite of his first wife. Never mind that Jamal has children by her. Never mind the fact that these children are internalizing their mother’s humiliation. And yet we will one day wonder why the children of the first wife loathe their counterparts from the second wife.
Jamal has failed. His attempt at being a polugamist are as inept as one would expect from an ostrich performing brain surgery. But in Amberay I see someone who just relishes the opportunity to cause chaos. She should be making an ally out of her co-wife. Their religion allows this. Instead, she is aggravating an already sore situation.
Amber Ray introduced to Jamal Roho Safi’s family
My prediction? This marriage will not last. Time will tell whether or not I am right. And if I were Amberay’s relative, I would advise her to seek wisdom from her much older relatives.
Samidoh and Karen Nyamu’s drama has started up a very interesting conversation on Twitter that I felt I had to weigh in on. It all started when an mmnjug decided to question the fact that it is an unspoken truth that a lot of Kenyan artists are kept men.
On that Samidoh and Karen fiasco, are we ready to talk about how mauntie wa Harrier keep these musicians ama hii maneno tuongelee pale ByPass tukikula ka-wet fry?
And this is a brilliant segue into the conversation. Because as we know, Kenyan artists do not make a lot of money. The average artist would be lucky to be able to pay their rent off of their craft.
Kikuyu Benga musician Samidoh
Perhaps the example of Samidoh is not the best example because in all honesty, benga singers who are colloquially known as River Road stars often make a lot of money from their craft. But this is clearly what most Kenyans are thinking when they look in from the outside at Samidoh and Karen Nyamu’s circumstances.
Why? Because she is seen as the partner who had all the connections. Hell, she even introduced him to William Ruto, the vice president of this disastrous regime. And that is doing the utmost to support your man.
But back to the matter at hand. Let us get back to discussing what we know about sugar mummies and their entertainer boyfriends. More often than not, they usually find a one-hit-wonder or an artist on the come-up.
They then offer them the celebrity lifestyle. That means they buy for them clothes and finance them enough to get them noticed by blogs. That means partying at all the happening spots or hiring a public relations manager.
Then when the artist starts hitting more and more, we start hearing about how they move in a dodgy manner because every single female they interact with has to be hidden as a coin KRA might go after.
There have been a lot of artists who, like Samidoh, were linked to sugar mummies and I would argue that is not a problem. It is survival. And this endeavour knows no shame nor guilt.
For years, we have had singers who were kept women. We had singers whose entire career could be summed up into the sugar baby dynamic and no one would butt and eye-lid. Yet when men like Samidoh are linked to sugar mummies, our collective mind is blown. And if indeed that is how he got his start then, by all means, let the man prosper. he did everything he had to inorder to provide for his family.
And even if that might entail some horizontal work, we really have no business catching a feeling about artists finding any means to support their talent and craft. That is what it means to be driven.
Karen Nyamu is a great lesson for all side chicks and clandestine lovers in Kenya who have gotten into the habit of disrespecting the wives of the men they are involved with.
But the blame doesn’t go to just one party, the husbands or should I say the men involved in the entanglements with their own Karen Nyamus because they are the ones who allow the disrespect their wives are showered with to go on unchecked.
City lawyer and politician Karen Nyamu’s colorful baby bump shoot
Perhaps this is some perverse way of them showing how they really feel about their wives but by proxy. This might be why someone like Samidoh would remain silent as his wife, Edday Nderitu, was harangued and hounded by Karen Nyamu.
Why else would Miss Nyamu think she would be immune to any disciplinary measures on the part of Samidoh? The Mugithi singer however pulled a fast one on her when he finally had enough of all the disrespect and he decided to stand fast with his wife, openly declaring that his relationship with Karen was a mistake.
Samidoh with his wife, Edday
It made me wonder why Karen Nyamu and other women who find themselves in their position often think they can disrespect their partners’ spouses. The conventional wisdom informs these ladies that men never leave their spouses. Perhaps it is down to some perverse loyalty. Sometimes it is down to the sunken cost fallacy. But whatever the case may be, the fact that these men never leave their wives is proven by the fact that alot of men self-report having engaged in extra-marital affairs but most divorces are initiated by women. Some eighty per cent to be exact.
So why would Karen Nyamu think she could force her way into the Samidoh household by disrespecting her possible co-wife? Was it due to promises made to her while they were having pillow talk? Was it down to the fact she had gleaned that her man didn’t really have love for his wife?
Samidoh with his wife and two kids
Whatever the case may be, it often ends, as Nairobi people say, in premium tears. Why not just acquiesce to becoming a second wife? And being that means respecting every member of your new household. Sure Karen Nyamu was obviously the apple of Samidoh’s eye but respecting Edday would have in the very least, pacified a potential competitor.
All-in-all, there are no real winners here. Edday Nderitu has not been given the chance to hide her shame from the public glare. Karen Nyamu is seen a home-wrecker. And Samidoh is exposed as a weak man and leader. Add to this potent mix the fact that their children will grow up to see all this mess and you can see why this is a family in complete shambles.
Karen Nyamu has been the talk of the town ever since she revealed that she and Samidoh were expecting a child together. After that, it became clear to all that they were actually more than just co-parents, she was now in effect his second wife.
Public sympathy was poured out to his first wife whom many felt was unfairly being subjected to the humiliation of her husband’s affair coming to light and his attempt to clear his name by settling down with his affair partner.
City lawyer and politician Karen Nyamu’s colorful baby bump shoot
One is clear though, we have no idea how Samidoh, Karen Nyamu and his wife, Edday Nderitu are actually doing and whether or not they are one big happy family but at the end of the day, things seem pretty much to be pointing towards that reality.
Anyway, while I am entirely in support of polygamy and polygyny in particular, I do not think Samidoh has any business being a polygamist. What I have gleaned of his personal life is something that has cast an immense shadow of doubt as to whether he can actually lead his household.
Samidoh and Karen Nyamu’s infant son
Why, pray tell, am I saying this? Well because he seems to be incapable of telling his wives to keep their drama off social media. Karen Nyamu seems to enjoy playing the villain in alot of the interactions she has with not only her co-wife; her senior wife, but also Samidoh’s fans who for some erroneous reason believe she is the reason he originally strayed from his marriage.
You see, if Samidoh was a strong leader, Karen Nyamu wouldn’t be bullying his first wife. If he were an impartial administrator, his wife Edday wouldn’t be playing the gallery for sympathy and over-sharing bedroom matters.
Samidoh and Karen Nyamu
Samidoh seems not to have any guidance from some mentors or older male relatives regarding how to conduct a polygamous household. That is why he doesn’t reprimand Karen Nyamu when she begins harassing her co-wife. If indeed he does, then it explains why she simply ignores him.
If he had an example of a successful polygamous marriage to learn from, perhaps when Edday got into an accident, we wouldn’t have seen her co-wife mock her. Then again, when youre a weak spined husband and patriarch, you invite indiscipline and outright disrespect from your partners.
And Samidoh needs to be reminded why this is toxic. He is currently a young man who can reign in the shenanigans of his children but as he grows older, he will lose that ability as the children become bigger and stronger. The animus their mothers have for each other will play out because the internet never forgets and they will have a firsthand account of everything their mothers were subjected to or subjected each other to.
