Actress Refiloe Seseane, who starred as Dudu on Generations, has shared her experience with abortion.
Speaking to Azania Mosaka, she said: “… I think being able to be honest about it and upfront, perhaps will be encouraging for other people to perhaps reconsider the decision, I don’t know. But the fact that I have gone through the journey, I’ve got the healing and can speak about it retrospectively, I think is something that could be of inspiration to someone else.”
Before the abortion, Refiloe reveals she was asked whether she was sure with her decision to terminate the pregnancy.
“But my mind was made up, in so far as I knew that having a child at that stage would have just been too burdensome for me and for my family. I might have prevented other future things from taking place because now the priority would have been in taking care of the child, feeding, educating – you know, providing for the child as opposed to my own dreams and ambitions. So, from that perspective there’s no regret,” she said.
She says she would probably have made a different decision if she knew better. Every time she sees a child, she wonders what hers would have looked like.
“What would she be like at this age. You wonder, you never really stop, actually. And even to this day, she would have been 19 years old. So, you’re thinking ‘ah, university. The questions are always there but I think working through all of those emotions and just maintaining a sense of honesty is what helps you cope and get through it…”