DATING TIPS: How To Approach Women On The Street

There are so many hot women roaming around the streets of Nairobi and other towns in Kenya. However, approaching them is not a cake in the mouth matter. As guys we’ve all found ourselves, at one point or another, wanting to approach a fine chick in tao but when the time came to make a move, we simply chickened out, stood back and rationalized that it was not the appropriate time.

Striding aggressively in heels and skirt, the sight of the urban careerist chick making her way to her paper pushing job intimidates most men. They stare but re-consider approaching because they have no idea how to go about it. They are also afraid of getting rejected. And I totally understand. Hey, if it’s hard enough approaching women in clubs — where the environment invites social communication — then imagine how much harder it is when it comes to the streets.

No need to worry. As always, Etemesi has tips to make it a little easier for you.

Be a smart dresser

The way you are dressed matters a lot otherwise she might think you are one of those people that sell fake phones or walk around borrowing money. I discovered that I get more street success when wearing official clothes rather than casual clothes. Well-ironed official attire gives woman the impression that you are doing well in life. By looking presentable, you have already done half the work.

All women want men that have a good thing going, not normal men who just want coitus without offering any financial security. So if you want to get girls while walking around town, make sure to always look sharp. Women decide whether they are interested or not even before you talk to them. If she sees that you look like a focused guy, she will entertain your vibe. Otherwise she’ll give you hell.

Approach a girl when she’s walking slowly

If a woman is rushing, you have zero chance of getting her number. You will just end up doing a walking race that’ll make you look like a fool. Close in when she is walking slowly in a somehow crowded area. The good thing about approaching in a crowded area is that you are somehow covered and no one will notice if you get rejected. Also, she won’t see you coming when there are a lot of people around

Just because you know that you’re a nice guy, doesn’t mean that she does. When you approach women, it is important for you to realize that most will be caught by surprise (if it’s in a place where approaches aren’t usually made) and their guard will go up. This is normal, and the important thing is for you to come across as a harmless guy. Take it slow and talk kindly. If you feel that things aren’t going so well, withdraw quickly

Look at her in the eyes

You are obviously a fisi but avoid looking like one. Some guys keep on sabotaging any good chances they have by keeping their eyes aimed down at a woman’s breasts or haga. Instead, keep your eyes locked onto hers all the time. You want her to think that you’re a brave and romantic guy who’s going to romantically sweep her off her feet rather than a thirsty man who is just having a crisis of the loins. The way she looks back at you will also help you determine whether to initiate a courtship salvo or nah. Don’t force it if she’s looking uncomfortable.

The rules of eye contact are simple

1. If she looks down, she’s instantly attracted but shy

2. If she looks at you only for a second then looks away and stare at anything else apart from you, she’s not interested

3. If she holds eye contact with you intensely, she is interested in whatever you have to say

 

Relax

Calm your nerves. No need to pant and have your heart racing like you are an athlete talking to a reporter. Some men tend to get nervous when talking to women and act like they’re about to delve into a marriage proposal that their lives depend on. By acting in such a way, they come across as desperate. Relax; it’s a simple approach, all you need to say is “sasa” and create a normal non-sexual conversation. Don’t try to use pick-up lines. Just talk the way you normally talk to other girls