¨I have had to loosen up and learn somethings from scratch¨ Nameless on bringing up his teenage daughter

Kenyan thriving pop-artist, Nameless reveals that bringing up a teenage daughter is not as easy as ABC.

Tumiso, the couple´s first daughter and child is hitting the wild teenage years which is either a make or break of teens´ relationship with parents.

Nameless told Mpasho, that this is the day and age when beating does not offer a solution to children´s problems, rather sit-downs and open conversations, do the trick.

Parenting

Speaking of his own, Tumiso, he shared:

We sit down and talk to her, and No, I am not the type of parent who dictates who their child dates. It is important to just give them space and trust them to do the right thing. We are in a new era, bringing up Tumiso has taught me so much.

An era totally different from his childhood days, Nameless had to trash a couple of things and learn new tackles in order to effectively bring up his daughter.

Fortunate enough, he is open to it all.

I have had to loosen up and learn somethings from scratch because some of the things we had been conditioned to believe were not true or effective. Am learning what adolescence is all about. I am very big on matters emotional intelligence, emotional health and I read as much as I can on the same.

Through the sit-downs and open conversations, the relationship between the couple and their teen daughter has grown stronger and more open.

For us to make sure she does not move away from us, we sit her down and talk, We have seen improvement as she is opening up more. We do not have all the answers but we go through out together.

Shedding light on the ´traditional´ way of disciplining kids, Nameless admitted that it might not always work especially for the new generation of children.

We are not always quick to punish because sometimes, a certain behavior may be her way of seeking out our attention. By beating her, you may think you are gaining but that is not always the case.

The Gap

However, he expressed concern over the current education system that only equips learners with a small percentage on how to survive life thereafter.

With a whooping 70-80% left for individuals to discover and learn on their own as they grow. Which is pretty unbalanced.

Honestly speaking, we are not taught how to handle our emotions. My aim is to push that schools should not focus so much on academics yet we do 20% of what we are taught in real life. On the other hand, we deal with matters concerning emotions for 70-80% of our entire life.