Akothee is right; Parents denying ex partners access to children is a sign of bitterness

Akothee is one experienced single mother who will tell the bitter truth about coparenting and although many are quick to point fingers at her for ‘promoting single motherhood’ truth is Akothee’s tales have some to truth to it.

Well i say this following her latest post on ex spouses using kids as a weapon against each other; and as you’ve probably heard – most tend to deny an ex access to the kids which is a form of punishment a parent never gets over.

However having had 3 baby daddy’s Akothee says one of the things she has learnt is that parents who use kids against each other are actually the reason why most kids tend to grow up bitter – just like those raising them.

Akothee with son and baby daddy

DENYING YOUR PARTNER A CHANCE TO SEE HER / HIS KIDS IS A SIGNAL YOU ARE HURTING. If there is anything that hurts me most , is when full grown couples drug children into their disagreements. Its becoming a global pandemic where once couples separate , one will try to use the child to distruct the other ones peace. Its not even the child they want , nor the upkeep, its called the selfish spirit of the unknown, where you think your partner is happy without you and you never want them to move on.

Accept and move forward

Still on the same, Akothee went on to add that such spouses get so toxic not just to their kids but anyone they get involved with.

Explaining this through her instagram post – Akothee said;

With this kind of spirit , you will end up ruining if not your children’s life but also your own life.You will become Toxic to every new person you meet, hence all your upcoming relationships won’t hold waters because you still holding onto your baby mama/ babby daddy The love you shared is gone , The children will remain , No sane mother / father will deny her / his children from having the freedom of enjoying both parents, this comes with unnecessary malicious damaging dramas for nothing.

And come to think of it, its true it appears the younger generation keeps getting angrier and less bothered about families; but can we really blame them when all they’ve grown up around is bitterness?

It hurts that we are ruining our children’s lives raising bitter generations, and its being inherited to the next generations. I think Governments should come up with strict rules on co_operanting with zero dramas ,and even arrest the parent causing drama. Children are not part of your disagreements , your love , infatuation, commitments and fun Moments are GONE. Stop being a burden to each other , let everyone find peace elsewhere .

And having appointed herself as an advocate for single parents…Akothee shared a list of important information separated parents should keep in mind -.when coparenting. And she wrote:

1. Avoid unnecessary demands
2. Take care of your children without demanding for support if you can afford it
3, Agree on terms of visitations
4. Tell him / Her you are not interested and not ready for any drama nor negative discussions
5 limit your communication and attachments to friends you commonly shared , they carry gossips
6. Don’t stalk him / her on social media
7. Block anyone bringing info’s from both ends
8. Allow children access their parents ,unless its getting ugly
9 Talk only positive things about your partner around your children or just don’t mention at all.
10. Let them find out by themselves that daddy/ mommy isn’t supporting them , don’t be the transmitter

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Pauline Syombua

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