Anerlisa Muigai and Ben Pol’s relationship shows us what to expect out of modern marriages
Anerlisa Muigai and Ben pol’s marriage is rumoured to be on the rocks and to be honest, it is they who have caused these rumours to start circulating by the actions -or lack thereof.
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You see, Anerlisa Muyigai and Ben Pol were the type to share every little bit of their relationship on social media. We were treated to the sights and sounds of their courtship. We watched as they moved from innocent romance into a fully-fledged adult relationship complete with an end in mind. And we watched them cross that finish line but here is where the rest of us need to sit up and take note because they were unable to answer the question that faces every newlywed couple; the question of “what next?”
From treating us to the photos and videos of their exotic dates to treating us to the advice Anerlisa Muigai would occasionally post on her social media account and Ben Pol looking like an introvert cast into a world he seemed ill at ease with. Ultimately, when the wedding happened, we seemed to have been flung from a romantic tale with its own happily ever after to being treated to the big bad monster of what comes after the wedding ceremony is over and the bride and groom are left to chart the path of their lives (both individual and united).
Anerlisa Muigai and Ben Pol seemed to fall apart almost immediately. On social media, a couple whose pattern had taught us to expect their photos and videos decided to delete each other’s photos off their individual platforms. A couple that was not shy about flaunting their love now hid that sought of stuff and would get defensive when their respective fans and followers raised questions. Anerlisa particularly became prickly about the topic of what was happening on the homefront.
Then we saw Ben Pol make the monumental life decision of converting to Islam and his wife was nowhere to be seen. She wasn’t by his side and many thought the step had caught her flatfooted. But at this point, we need to understand for our own benefit that a wedding is never the end goal of courtship. Sure, it is a monumental leap but the end goal should always be to build wealth together (or galvanize and protect already amassed wealth) and to raise children in the most healthy environment known to man -a family.
Anerlisa Muigai is someone who is showing us through her situation with Ben Pol that a couple that is dating needs to give more than a passing thought to what life will be like when they finally have the marriage they pursued. You see, Anerlisa Muigai and Ben Pol both come from immensely wealthy families but they have completely different world views given their different walks through life up until this point. They see a problem from different angles and see opportunities differently because of how their families socialized them and also because of how their environments shaped their thought patterns.
Young couples need to plan out their lives together before they take their vows to see whether or not they are compatible. Anerlisa Muigai and Ben Pol are showing this. They are also showing that for a family to work, for two people to come together and build a family, they have to make some tough decisions as well as they possibly can. They have to find middle ground on things such as ambition, world view and sometimes the only way to do so is to come to a compromise.
The social media photos are nice. The loving videos are great. They inspire young couples to keep marching onto their wedding days but there has to be more than just that ceremony that the couple are looking forward to. Ben Pol should have taken charge and leadership in this matter. It should have been him guiding Anerlisa Muigai on charting their “what next”. Perhaps that is happening but I highly doubt it given he seems to be charting his own individual path.