Diamond Platnumz is down in South Africa visiting his children by Zari Hassan and the pair of them have ignited dating rumours for the umpteenth time. For some reason, a lot of East Africans and Tanzanians, in particular, seem to want to always allude to the pair reconciling and hooking up again.
You have to wonder why they keep trying to pray for the former “it” couple to rekindle their relationship when it is clear they have both moved on and are happy with their respective partners or their single life.
But why does this always seem to happen with Diamond and Zari? It is because the concept of co-parenting is one that is very misunderstood in Africa as it is still a novel one. For our boomer parents, this was anathema. When their marriages ended, they would simply go their separate ways and one parent was often alienated.
That or the fact that a lot of us have crappy self-discipline so we project our actions on to Zari and Diamond and assume that like us, they are smashing because that is what you and your baby mama often get up to and you cannot fathom another way of doing things.
But the truth is that co-parenting is one o the most complicated relationships to maintain if you aren’t clear that you’re doing it for the sake of your children. You see, the best setup to raise children in is an intact family. And nuclear families are proven to be the best familial unit for that. But life happens.
And just like it did to Zari and Diamond, relationships and marriages come to an end. That usually means that you have to figure out how to both be parents regardless of whether or not the breakup was peaceful or not.
And for a long time, their relationship was almost nonexistent and as a result, Nilan and Tiffah had to make do without their father being present in their lives. That is a big issue if what you want is to raise balanced children as research has suggested that a father is integral for children to learn discipline.
So now that things have worked themselves out and the former couple are cooperating in their parenting efforts, a lot of people see this as a sign Zari is cheating on her “Dark Stallion” but I am of the opinion that they both have simply decided to put their children first and we need to learn from that. This is what adulting looks like. This is what being a parent is about.
January 27, 2023
January 27, 2023