Kamba curse? Why Betty Kyallo and Lilian Muli’s relationships always fail
Right off the bat, allow me to admit that the title was tongue-in-cheek. In discussing Betty Kyallo and Lillian Muli’s failed relationships, there will be nothing about a Kamba curse. This is first and foremost because ethnicity has no bearing on an individual’s personality and secondly because I am not a superstitious lout who puts any thought towards curses and other nonsense.
That said, the two media personalities have a lot in common including their ethnicity. But what really binds them together is the fact that they are both modern women. As a result of this fact, they have both been married and failed at that. They are both now single mothers and both have had a string of ill-fated relationships that have not just ended in heartbreak but often times public scandal to boot.
Betty Kyallo had announced that she was dating a city lawyer by the name of Nick Ndeda and the internets went wild. Every single, over 30, career driven woman was elated at the news. It meant that there was hope yet for her. The same thing happened when the Nairobian, Standard Group’s tabloid ran stories about Lillian Muli dating Jared Nevaton, a shadowy businessman. These two women were held up as examples of there being love at the end of the tunnel.
The two ladies are clearly capable of finding love or it’s cheap imitation. So if they can attract men, why can’t they seem to keep any of these men? Well, there is no single answer to that question but rather a series of interesting answers. Let’s get right into the whys and the wherefores.
#1. Both Betty Kyallo and Lillian Muli are boss babes
Forget what your favourite vapid feminist influencer tells you, no man wants to date let alone marry a boss babe. Why? Because for some reason, this makes women insufferable. No man wants to have to deal with a woman who believes herself to be in competition with him. Sure, we want a woman who has the business savvy to run their enterprises or to pursue their career but the minute I have to start competing with you in the house then I want out. Men want women who will give them peace.
A constant dripping on a day of steady rain
And a contentious woman are alike;
#2. They are famous so men want to be associated with them
When they were younger, men saw them as trophies. The cherry ontop of their successful careers or businesses. Now that they are older, men still consider a romp with them as somewhat of an achievement. They figure that sleeping with such famous celebrities is worth more than your average bedpost notch. And as a result, their DMs will forever more be flooded by thirsty men looking for that cheap thrill till their sixties.
#3. They conflate sexual desire with relationship desire
Back to the second point; just because a man desires you sexually doesn’t mean he desires a relationship wit you. This is sadly a lesson very few women in Nairobi seem to fully grasp. Simply because you have many men in your DMs doesn’t mean any one of them would jump at the opportunity to wife you up. And getting the two conflated is the reason why Betty Kyallo and Lillian Muli have had such unfulfilling and shortlived relationships. I guarantee you that they already rue not cherishing their first marriages enough. I mean, sure, a lot of men want to take them on exotic destination vacations but that is only for as long as they excite their hormones. Once that novelty is worn out, its back to the streets for the two bitter media darlings.
Do you think that having been in loving relationships and failing at them doesn’t make a person jaded? And don’t you think jaded individuals carry that attitude like a chip on their shoulder into the next relationship? The two divorces between the pair is buggage enough. No man wants to be compared to their woman’s past lovers. And no man wants to have to deal with famous men in his woman’s list of lovers.
And seeing how they both aired out their former partners and the fathers of their children, which man would be willing to risk such publicly played out drama? No man worth his salt, that’s who.
#5. They are single mothers
I mean, show me a single man worth his salt who would choose to take on another man’s children. Any man who knows he has options with women would not. And that is even when they have children of their own because life is simply not fair. No man wants to play part time dad to Denis Okari’s now Jared Nevaton’s child. So both Betty Kyallo and Lillian Muli find themselves hamstrung by this fact.
I am sure there are plenty of reasons more but these are the ones that jumped me at a cursory glance. Feel free to add more or debate with yourself on whether or not I am wrong.