Kambua shares how her ex-boyfriend used to ruthlessly body shame her

Gospel singer Kambua has had her own fair share of disappointments in relationships. Several times the lady, who has been married for almost 6 years now with no kids, has come out to shun Kenyans attacking women in marriages that have not been blessed with a baby.

Recently she also touched on the issue of ladies battling with body image issues, sharing her boyfriend shamed her for being plump.

“Many years ago, I was dating his guy, I was living life on the chubbier side of life. i was a lot heavier than i am now. i was fresh from high school and i met this guy, we liked each other so we started dating,” kambua said.

She went to add that her man kept on body shaming her and didn’t bother to help her check her weight or habits.

“But this guy has a serious issue with my weight. And he was constantly showing me different exercises. He has a lot of advise to give me. It did not bother me too much. There was a time he said something like, ‘You finished a whole chapo by yourself? A whole chapo?’”

“That was like strike two and a half. Strike three was this one time we were going out for a late lunch we went to a fast food place so he bought one piece of chicken for me, one for himself and a pack of fries for us to share.

Be with someone who celebrates you

“So, please keep in mind that i’m already conscious about my weight, what i eat around this guy because of what he said about the chapo. We start eating, i’m eating very slowly nibbling on my chicken taking a fry here and there, then halfway through the meal he goes like ‘i don’t think you should eat any more fries.’

She continued, “He takes the rest of the pack and continued to eat. So i just swallowed a kiwaru, literally. As i’m eating my chicken, he goes like, are you going to finish that, k? And i handed my chicken over to him. Everything inside me, it was like a mixture of balancing my tears, feeling humiliated, hungry and angry.”

Adding, “The relationship, obviously did not last. What I learnt from it is, don’t be with someone who body shames you be with someone who celebrates who you are in every season of your life.

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Pauline Syombua

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