Mr Seed and Nimo Gachuiri are going to serve as a lesson to all the women who believe they can date a celebrity and bet the house on their being faithful because that is a fool’s bet and it’s about time we all admit this truth.
You see, he wanted to do everything right by her and she too seemed to be in the relationship for the win but they refused to acknowledge reality they faced and stuck their heads deep in the sand.
That is why Mr Seed failed. Had he chosen to face the reality of the high possibility he would cheat, he would have mitigated any fallout because as one of my mentors pointed out, the only thing a woman cannot forgive is her humiliation. he would have done his dirt much smarter.
And Nimo Gachuiri is not the first nor is she the last to refuse to acknowledge that reality she faced. you see, when you’re with a high value man, a man with status (her husband is a celebrity), money and a good physique, then he will doubtless attract a lot of women willing to usurp your position in his life. She would have helped her man navigate this issue.
You see, Bwana Mbegu is a celebrity and a lot of women would be more than happy to sleep with him. We already covered this. But the reason the deck was stacked against him staying faithful is because of how we evolved as human beings. Only 39% of men in all of the Earth’s history of having human beings walk it’s surface were able to reproduce.
As such, those of us who are able to have women want to spread our seed. men want to sleep with as many women as possible. And as a result, we evolved to not put emotional attachment to the act of sex.
What that translates to is that Nimo Gachuiri needs to understand that her husband Mr Seed could actually step out of the house, have sex with a random fan and still come back home to be a great husband and father.
And why wouldn’t he if he had that option? Afterall, men are only as faithful as their options and celebrities have a lot of options. If this is a reality Kenyan women cannot live with, then why date and marry a celebrity? Why marry the one person who has an abundance of options?
And yet if Mr Seed and Nimo Gachuiri had found mentors who helped them navigate this rare circumstance they find themselves in, then they would have known to handle indiscretions. Bwana Mbegu would have been taught to keep things discrete. he would have been taught not to offend his wife by humiliating her with stupid scandals. Hell, he would have been taught to use condoms. And the lady of their house would have learnt to understand that men cannot emote like women. She would have learnt to understand how men show love and concern. And that is by actually investing their time and resources in starting and maintaining a family with them.
June 30, 2022