Nyota Ndogo has been cryng and bellyaching about her man. You see, she was left by her mzungu husband and she has taken it so badly that she seems unable to move on and is simply pining for the man to come back to her.
What is interesting is that her fans and I are of the same opinion on the matter that she should stop whining about the man and simply move on with life because as the old Kiswahili maxim goes, “Ukiwachwa achika“.
The comments on Nyota Ndogo’s account read as follows:
”nikiachwa naachika,because I know the relationships and marriages are like calls from God and not everyone is for it!I normalise soft life”
”This man clearly alikua anatafuta sababu ya kuku wacha, prank tu haiwezi fanya akasirike mpaka leo if he truly loved you, move on my dear, dnt give urself hypertension for nothing, u got kids to raise”
And to me this exemplifies how poorly women deal with rejection and being dumped. There is a very foolish notion that men do not handle rejection well but the simple truth is that men have to deal with rejection all the time. It is men who usually have to hit on women and get turned down. Any man with mentors and a father will learn to deal with that rejection gracefully.
Women, on the other hand, do not get to practice that muscle. Why would they when they are the ones getting hit on? Nyota Ndogo was approached by her mzungu husband and not the other way around. The same goes for a divorce as statistics show that women initiate 80 per cent of all divorce proceedings.
The reason I have highlighted that fact is to say that women rarely have to deal with the end of their relationships as they are the ones doing the dumping. So they never learn how to move on from getting dumped and we can see that in how Nyota Ndogo keeps bellyaching about her man.
””Plzz come back to me. mimi hata sio pesa nalilia love. Nilikua na act don’t care couse nakula nalala vizuri najilipia bills zangu mwenyewe but one thing nakosa from you ni love. Kumbe pesa sio kila kitu muimu kupata mtu unaempenda na wewe kwako nimefika mwisho yani kama hurudi ntajifia single”
You also need to have some context here. She had lied that she was pregnant on April Fools and that seems to have crossed the line in as far as he was concerned. So she had pushed for this outcome and now she is busy making it our business by coming online to cry and make it our problem. Can you imagine if we were discussing a male celebrity like, say, Chipukeezy? He would never live this down had he dragged things out this long with Kibanja.
June 30, 2022