Paula Kajala is the daughter of Frida Kajala, Harmonize’s ex whom he tried to (or did he actually manage to) sleep with and she is also the same girl who was involved in a scandal with Rayvanny.
The thing about this girl that makes her the focus of my piece today is that she is the poster child of what happens to the child of a single mother when she doesn’t receive the direction a father provides whether in a stable house or through a co-parenting situation.
You see, Paula Kajala has a father who is a producer in Tanzania by the name of P-Funk Majani who is estranged from her. This man recently gave an interview in which he revealed that she had told him she doesn’t want a relationship with him and he has no choice but to oblige her.
He, however, was very clear that the stuff she is getting herself involved in will not only ruin her but will bring a curse. He also proves that hindsight is 20/20 as he claims he regrets siring a child by Frida Kajala, a woman whom he feels has no business being a mother.
Whether or not you agree with his decision not to get involved with his daughter’s life, the fact that she lacks discipline is a very real result of this man, Majani, not getting involved in the disciplining of Paula Kajala. And at this rate, she will soon go through the pains of being a single mother.
At the end of the day, whatever you might think is an issue with the situation, you have to agree that Frida Kajala is a terrible example to her daughter. How can we excuse the fact that she exposed her daughter to her fiance in the form of Harmonize? While she is not responsible for his bad behaviour, the tenets of motherhood, cast in iron, are that she needs to protect her daughter from the worst life has to offer including unscrupulous men. She failed at this task.
We have to realize that our feelings are worthless in this argument because science has documented and spoken to the situation and shows us that Paula Kajala would be better off with her father in her life. And according to a Safe Harbour study,
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90% of welfare recipients are single mothers
70% of gang members, high school dropouts, teen suicides, teen pregnancies, teenage drug abusers are from single mother households
63% of national suicides are done by individuals who grew up in single-mother homes
90% or runaway children are from single-mother households are from single mother households
85% of children with behavioural disorders are from single-mother households
80% of rapists motivated by displaced anger grew up in single-mother homes
85% of imprisoned youth grew up in single-mother homes
Feel free to look more into the statistics of why having both parents is important for children here.
if her father were involved in her life, predatory men would have been kept at bay. His job would have been to keep the hyenas off his daughter. She wouldn’t be the butt of jokes at this very moment. She wouldn’t be the footnote of the musical releases Harmonize is working on even as he shares the eggplant emoji.
The truth is, Frida Kajala has failed in her role as a mother but we expected no less from a single mother who herself is out to do anything for her time in the spotlight. And we need to actually take the time to take in this situation and learn from it as men. You do not want your daughter exposed to the type of nonsense Paula Kajala is. That doubtless makes P-Funk Majani feel like a failure. It hurts him enough to actually decide to cut off all his ties to his daughter.
February 6, 2023
February 6, 2023