Tag: Tedd Josiah

Tedd Josiah often busies himself discussing masculinity and just like his brother Mike Wachira, he often makes it out to be some abstract concept of weakness and foolish pride as he tries to steer men towards becoming a pale shadow of their forebearers because he doesn’t want them to reach out to a notion and idea bigger than themselves.

Tedd Josiah’s revelation on marriage reveals his hypocrisy in attacking Jalang’o

However, for once, I find myself agreeing with this deadbeat father (he abandoned his eldest children from his first marriage) and I am reminded of the saying, “even a broken clock is right twice a day”.

Tedd Josiah recently shared something about his journey raising his daughter, the one in whose life he is entirely and actively involved in and the fear he discussed with regard to being at his weakest and having to face his fears actually made me question how someone with this level of introspection can so often be off the mark when it comes to his understanding of masculinity.

”A great misconception is
“You’re a man you got it figured out.
Men can get through anything they are tough.
Life favours men…..”
Am gonna speak from my heart
Raising a child from infancy alone is not a joke and it’s triple tough for a man to raise an infant with no knowledge…. learning on the job and still having to provide.
”More scary is having to face your mortality and wondering what would happen….
This society thinks men got it good. Now with that info please think again.
We are all struggling to live, stay healthy and put food on our children’s tables (some of us more than others).”

To understand what I am talking about, I need to start by explaining my understanding of classical masculinity as it was taught to me by my father and my mentors: classical masculinity is understood as a set of attributes, roles and behaviours that are largely biologically determined but society too factors in to influence it. These include strength, stoicism, courage, independence, leadership, nobility and assertiveness.

Tedd Josiah and the dishonesty of men blaming Jalang’o

That is why whenever a heroic figure or personality was mythologized, they embodied all these characteristics. And as men evolved more and more, these traits were put to use to not only conquer our environment but to also build up civilization and then deal with adversity as it came along.

And even that abstract notion of paternal authority that feminists and their male allies like Tedd Josiah rail against, the patriarchy, grew from the concept that men created to keep their families safe from physical harm or any other level of manipulation. That was set by a code known as chivalry. Because the understanding was that women and children are weaker than men and need to be protected from the worst of men and from the harsh realities of life.

My first wife left me because I was a really bad boy and immature – Tedd Josiah

But the one aspect that Tedd Josiah, would do well to teach himself to embody is that of stoicism. That is one of the most important aspects of masculinity.

You see, when a boy grows up with a father or involved father figure around, he learns an aspect of stoicism that will help make him a much better man. Whether it is how to manage his emotions or how to face adversity in a calm and collected way, these all fall under that one aspect.

Society Thinks Men Are Tough But They’re Not! Tedd Josiah Speaks On Men Struggles

And it is an important one for men to learn because at the end of the day, whether you’re at the top of the mountain or in the bottom of the trench, you will face adversity as a man. A man building his empire will face challenges and turmoil. A man at the top of his empire has to defend it. And though the adversity men face are different, they need to face it with dignity and stoicism. Tedd Josiah is often basically telling men to emote like women or to identify as victims and keep crying or telling them to “stop being toxic” as if every man is a criminal.

The thing about being a man, a father is that you shoulder the burdens of your family. You shoulder their hopes and dreams and today’s world does not celebrate the sacrifices you have to make to provide for them. That is why on Mother’s Day, mothers are celebrated and on Father’s Day, single mothers are celebrated. But men like Tedd Josiah need to learn to leave their emotions off social media and actually find a group of men, a tribe of like-minded men aspiring to be greater today than they were yesterday to talk to about his insecurities.

Government Doesn’t Care About Us, Let’s Buy Kenyan Products And Jumpstart Our Economy- Tedd Josiah

Tedd Josiah has given his followers a glimpse of the thoughts that burden men but it should not end there lest it be ignored as a pity party rant. Yes, men bear a great burden but it is what we were designed for. We were built for fighting and war. But we were also build to lead. And it is not easy but it was never meant to be. That is what separates mice from men. Why some follow and others take charge. Stop making excuses and keep keeping on. And when you feel weak and defeated, turn to your brothers for help and a listening ear. For that is why male friendship and camaraderie is important.

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Tedd Josiah is currently on a wave that has him giving relationship advice but the thing about his advice is that it is meant for low tier men but is clothed in a way that it appears to be suitable for everyone but I am here to provide close scrutiny.

Don’t Settle For Less- Tedd Josiah Explains Qualities To Look For When Choosing A Partner

Taking to his social media page on Instagram, he recently said the following:

”Love & Legacy.
Marry the one who will keep your dreams alive, the one that won’t be afraid to keep your memory alive, the one that will find it within themselves to keep on building what you both dreamt of and keep going. NO MATTER THE COST!

See some people meet in life and like  that collied in the sky’s they leave a bright beautiful sparkle everywhere…. when you meet people like that you embrace them and run with those dreams in order to build an empire.

That’s what true love does to you
LIVE  LOVE  LAUGH ”

I couldn’t help but laugh at this nonsense. Why you ask? Because it is patently false. It is the same type of nonsense fraudsters like Derrick Jaxn use to make you feel good about yourself and your situation while alleviating your responsibility to actually put yourself in a situation for blessings to find you.

Tedd Josiah seems to believe (and he wants you to aswell), that somewhere out there is a “soulmate” who is just right for you and they will come and complete your world. The truth is, if you know anything about math, the soul mate myth is a lie given there are seven billion people on earth. And Bustle.com broke it down in an easy to consume way:

“We’ll assume your soul mate is set at birth. You know nothing about who or where they are, but — as in the romantic cliché — you’ll recognize each other the moment your eyes meet.

Right away, this raises a few questions. For starters, is your soul mate even still alive? A hundred billion or so humans have ever lived, but only seven billion are alive now (which gives the human condition a 93% mortality rate). If we’re all paired up at random, 90% of our soul mates are long dead.”

“What if everyone actually had only one soulmate, a random person somewhere in the world?” Munroe crunches numbers and finds that, mathematically speaking, the chances of finding your soulmate — if there’s just one out there for you — are slim to none. For his purposes, he defines a soulmate as someone who is in the same age range as you, which means each person has about 500 million potential candidates.

“Let’s suppose you lock eyes with an average of a few dozen new strangers each day,” writes Munroe. “If 10 percent of them are close to your age, that’s around 50,000 people in a lifetime. Given that you have 500,000,000 potential soul mates, it means you’ll only find true love in one lifetime out of 10,000.”

And Tedd Josiah’s argument is rooted in this fallacy. Why? Well, when we deconstruct his advice, we see that he is pedestalizing “the one who will keep your dreams alive”. And this is damaging as it diffuses responsibility for any high-value man chasing their mission to expect help from their “one person”.

Tedd Josiah’s reasons for not dating are rubbish

This is also a facet of entitlement. You see, Tedd Josiah thinks himself to be entitled to someone who will fight his battles as if she were in his skin “no matter the cost” but this ignores the fact that human beings all fight their own battles for survival. And more importantly, he is not the type of person to do this for another as we saw with his first marriage so why does he think he deserves this sought of treatment?

The type of advice we should be giving little boys as they grow up is that no one but themselves is incharge of their happiness. No one but you is tasked with ensuring you get the best out of life. So keep your head down and focus on your goal.

Tedd Josiah Explains Why It’s Hard For Him To Re-marry

Tedd Josiah’s advice would have you living one extended teenage fantasy but men should learn discipline! This is the only way for them to realize they are the only ones who can make their lives awesome but there is a price to pay inorder for you to achieve this and that means sacrificing everything in your early life for your mission.

Once your life is great, trust me when I say that the women will gravitate towards you. Or you know, sit down and listen to low tier advice about how there is someone out there for you who will help alleviate your misery by taking on all your struggles.

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Tedd Josiah has popped back up on my radar as he has shared the fact that he gave up on finding a woman to date and he shared the rather peculiar reason why he has given up on the possibility of it happening any time soon:

Tedd Josiah Narrates How He Got Broke And Depressed While Raising Daughter By Himself

WHY ITS HARD FOR ME TO REMARRY
I’ve had a lot of questions about this issue and let me put it out clear.
Raising a girl ???????? with a very strong character personality means she’s got to be comfortable that the person in my life is not here to break her but to build her up.
Am building the dreams of a Great lady who passed away with the wish that her legacy would live on. She is the “KA” In Jo-Ka-Jok (Josiah-Katar-Josiah). How many women would marry a man busy building an empire for his daughter to inherit from her late mother?
The dating game in nowadays if full of men/ women ready to have a fling for a moment and a good time. But no ones ready to roll up their sleeves and say “am here for it all, the good times and the bad times, the highs and lows” in-fact when you hit a low patch even your friends and employees start to look at you like a person with leprosy thinking that money is forever flowing not knowing that life is a journey of ups and downs.
Don’t get me wrong, love ❤️ and finding a soulmate is an EXTREMELY beautiful thing.
But it gets to a point in life were if she ain’t coming to build with u, if she’s he’s gonna keep u waiting holding on and hoping she/ he will choose you while she/ he examines other options as a human you need to focus and the goals dreams and ambitions you have without the weight of a confused heart and some just come to confuse your heart and ad weight to it.
To have a life partner is to have a person that believes in you, not your money, not your status not the material things you own but you as a human.
I had that, to settle for less than what i had is impossible.
This is my current frame of mind
LIVE ???? LOVE ???? LAUGH ????
#RaisingJay #TheManMom

I read this post and couldn’t help laugh at it. Rather than leave it at the point where he says he is busy building his empire, he felt the need to introduce his daughter to the excuse. In all reality, she has no say.

Tedd Josiah Explains Why It’s Hard For Him To Re-marry

You see, as a father, Tedd Josiah’s responsibility to her is to ensure he doesn’t invite someone into his life who would abuse her. It ends there because he has a life to continue living. And if he has indeed made the decision not to date or remarry, then he should own that decision in its entirety.

And this is indeed keeping with his nature: always bringing up his daughter and using her as a justification for his decisions. One has to wonder whether he does the same thing for the other children he sired and then abandoned.

Single dad Tedd Josiah exposes wicked woman who attempted to kidnap his daughter

Look, at the end of the day, haya yote ni porojo ya kuongeza followers social media akijifanya yeye ndio father of the century. And the hypocrisy of it really bothers me. Tedd Josiah is always talking about one of his children and only one. The one he approves of. Let it not be forgotten that he was accused by his former wife, Cynthia Akoth, of abandoning their children.

This man should first own up to his failings before he starts preaching to men about fatherhood and what it takes to be a good husband. He and Derrick Jaxn are in the same bullshit camp. But man can change so perhaps he has worked on that his relationship with his two older children.

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