Music producer and businessman, Tedd Josiah has opened up on how the ¨big boys don´t cry¨ statements have landed men in the coffins and on the trenches.
In a long Instagram post, the proud father to a daughter posed:
Ever wonder why there’s so many men in clubs getting drunk 🥴 beyond? Ever wonder why they show false bravado & are extra nonchalant with their emotions and feelings? Why they don’t cry 😢? Cause big boys don’t cry?
It’s simple. Weakness is crying, weakness is showing ur emotions for anything other than football, weakness is being afraid so show false bravado & be “strong” for the weak are lesser men……
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DON’T LET THE TAKERS SUCK THE LIFE OUT OF YOU. I want to speak to you about “THE TAKERS” these are people and situations that drain your energy so much that you sometimes feel you can’t even breathe. Some can be your employer, your employees, your relatives, your husbands and wives. These are people with an Extremely powerful Jezebel spirit who will blind you from what God wants from you & of you. They charm you with what they can, money, sex, fake promises & words that temporarily ease your mind but never amount to anything at all. They will want you to break your back for them but never will they one day take of the shirt from their back when you are cold and wet….. They bleed you dry and once they are done with bleeding you they say “well life goes on, i had to get better, she wasn’t good enough for me, it just wasn’t for me, it wasn’t me it was him…” and they have the “perfect story” why you are horrid just because you’ve stopped giving or being taken advantage of. Takers & parasites only look out for one thing – THEMSELVES; for them people are here today & discarded tomorrow. Remember this – put your heart in Gods hands for everything they take will be restored 7 X 7 times over. They took love? You will get it 7×7 over They took wealth? You will get it 7×7 over They took happiness? You will get it 7×7 over They took your pride? You will get it 7×7 over. God is restoring EVERYTHING the parasite took from you. IF JAH IS STANDING BY MY SIDE WHY SHOULD I BE AFRAID OF THE PESTILENCE THAT CRAWLETH BY NIGHT? LIVE 🦋 LOVE 💕 LAUGH 😆
To mothers, to sisters, to wives, he reminds them all that emotions can never be deleted, but instead, they need to be let out, for a man to be free and sane.
Ladies this leads to ur man bottling things he should be speaking to u about and they will come out in one way shape or form…. Emotions cannot be slept away, brushed away, wished away or deleted.
Thinking back to how ´bottling up emotions´ in men began, he explains:
It all begins when our boys fall off their bikes as toddlers and we tell them “get up don’t cry cause big boys don’t cry” when they don’t do so well in school and we tell them “man up u can’t be a failure u must beat everyone else or ur weak”
I’ve seen this over and over and at 13, 15, 18, 25 and now in my 40s I’ve seen good men take their own lives because the people they loved outsourced the “let’s talk” to a psychiatrist to sort and they bottled up and blew up in suicide. Were they weak or neglected and ignored?
Unfortunately, once it has began, men will forever have to battle their emotions in ways that don´t make them look ´weak´.
There’s an age I’ve not mentioned cause at that age (30s) men have developed so much false bravado that they use copping mechanisms to deal with these things like infidelity, alcoholism, barbaric behaviour & violence…. those who have no conscience continue with it but those who wear their hearts on their sleeves find it a tough road and still end up bottling up cause ur wife don’t want to hear ur nonsense….
Society will somehow always condemn men who look ´fragile´ for expressing their emotions publicly.
Ur pals will think ur weak…. ur parents will wonder “why isn’t he strong like his father….”
As he closes up, Tedd´s final words are:
Look out for ur boys, they become men and their emotional well being is as important as their books, careers, money and wealth….
November 30, 2022
November 30, 2022
November 30, 2022