These 5 qualities are the only things that matter when looking for a wife

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I was recently having a rather riveting conversation with some of my friends and we were discussing the modern Kenyan women we were dating. The thing about this conversation is that we were trying to wonder whether we were going to carry forward these relationships to their natural conclusion; marriage.


And this led us to a much more interesting topic: What qualities do men consider in women when they want to get married? What separates the women who will be permanent side chicks from the women who get wifed up?

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And as you were having these conversations I ended up calling a mentor of mine to give his opinions on the matter. What you had to say was both interesting and polarizing. Because my friends argument was that he is from a different generation from ours they are for our values will have changed significantly from his.


His counter was that since time immemorial they are certain qualities that man have valued in their women and these have not changed since we evolved from being hunter-gatherers and started leading a more sedentary life that’s allowing us to become civilized.

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So what are some of these qualities he mentioned that make a woman worthy of carrying your last name? That make her worthy of being the mother of your children? Let’s take a quick look.


Never marry a woman who does not trust you with her life. It really doesn’t make sense and I woman will trust you with her intimate areas, trust you to put a baby and her but at the same time refused to give you her trust when it comes to her own life. Trust bares cooperation. Trust bares submission.

Genuine desire
Don’t Marry any woman that does not have genuine burning desire for you what does that mean? If she does not jump your bones every chance she gets, if she’s constantly we buffing your advances, if you know she’d rather be anywhere else done with you as you’re getting intimate with her then why marry her because the truth is when it comes to intimacy, side chicks are better than girlfriends who are intern better than wives. What that means is a side chick has a lot to prove to you so she will if you like her life depends on it. A girlfriend won’t be as crazy as a side chick but she still wants to get the ring so she will give you as much intimacy as you want. By the time she has graduated to becoming your wife they usually slow down because they have attained everything they ever wanted from you.

Rejection of feminism
Do not make the mistake of marrying a feminist. Has nothing to do with any biblical reference is just as simple as the fact that feminist women are the least agreeable and the least cooperative women who could ever deal with.
There’s a reason why in the Bible they say a man would rather live in a corner on his roof than in the same house as a cantankerous argumentative woman. What’s about feminism is that while there are certain aspects of our culture that need change, what it has become in its modern-day iteration is simple penile envy and misandry. Marry a woman who understands that her power is not in fighting with you but rather in her feminine essence.

Strong father
This particular point came with a caveat; if you are a strong man then make sure you marry a woman whose father is a strong man. If you know yourself to be a weak man I make money easily pushed over avoid marrying a woman with a strong father. That is because she will have grown up with the understanding of what a man truly is at his best. If you are a strong man she will also be able to look back at her father see you in him and appreciate you even more. But if you’re a weak man and she had a strong father you will always fall short and she will not defer to your decisions preferring to involve her father in your family affairs.

Low body count
This is a no-brainer do more men or women have slept with the more damage he has done to a bonding ability as well as the less intelligent and disciplined she shows herself to be when it comes to decision-making.
There’s also visceral components to this: Promiscuous women tend to retain the semen of the men they have slept with. This is known as human chimerism.

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