Why Mrs Guardian Angel (Esther Musila’s) love advice is pathetic
Guardian Angel has finally married his Ether Musila making her his Mrs officially and while we are all happy for the blushing bride and groom who indeed make a handsome couple, I have to point out that she has some horrible advice for women when it comes to relationships and love.
She took to her social media account to toast to her newfound marriage and love life as she boasted about her in-depth knowledge on what not only makes women more appealing to men but when you look at the nuance, how she managed to land a man as young as seemingly out of her reach as her husband.
Andrew Kibe has spoken about the matter and he too took issue with Guardian Angel and he pointed out that this is a dead-end deal for the young man who in all honesty should not be too excited for the prospects of starting a family with his wife. But today I am more interested in what Esther Musila had to say.
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That said, I do understand where Mrs Guardian Angel is coming from. She is a very rare example of a 50 year old single mother of 4 who has not only found love but has also been remarried. What is a more compelling lovetale than this? Well, it isn’t exactly an inspiring love story when you account for the fact that she is clearly Guardian Angel’s retirement plan. The gospel singer was a midling celebrity who wasn’t really minting money from his talents. It is only natural for him to want to secure the bag and who can judge him?
So I have to ask, what do normal women who aren’t in jobs that pay exceptionally well have to learn about love from a 50 year old woman dating a 30 year old man who has only upsides for wanting to engage himself in a relationship that he views as a job?
Anyway, allow me to refocus on Esther Musila’s words of romantic wisdom:
“The happiest women today are not the married ones. They’re not the single ones. They’re not the ones with stable careers and good incomes.”
This is an easily provable falsehood on two accounts: the first being that women are currently more liberated than they have ever been in the recorded history of the world and humanity but they score the lowest in terms of the self-reported happiness index and the percentage of women make up more than the percentage of men on antidepressants. In fact, this formed the basis of a very interesting research study done about the paradox of more female liberation coming hand in hand with more female depression.
Also, I should bring up the example of Google’s VP, Sarah Kennedy Ellis who is currently going through it when it comes to having failed at running IVF in order to start a family with her husband. This is a woman who has conquered the tech world, has a great career but not being able to get babies is giving her depression. So clearly Esther Musila is only speaking anecdotally which should be disregarded.
“The happiest women are the ones who made a choice to love themselves wholly and truly. Women who chose to leave the past behind, worked on their self-esteem and put a high price tag on their self-esteem.”
This is called solipsism and it makes women horrible partners. How do we know this? Well, Just to keep Esther Musila informed, the most self-loving women are the women in the western world and guess what? Their marriage rates are dropping to some very disturbing rates. Relationships aren’t about being self-centred. They are about sacrifice and realising that you and your spouse are together to actually start a family and generate wealth. Leaving the past behind as she puts it isn’t running away from the consequences of your decisions.
“They stopped playing victims. They stopped whining in self-pity and dining in pity parties. They moved past their anger, tears and bitterness. They realized that happiness is a personal choice and responsibility. They chose to be defined by their present, but not their bitter pasts.“
I agree with this. Even I can admit when a broken clock gets something right.
“They are happy because they don’t need validation from anyone. They are happy because they know that they don’t need to throw shade on anyone for them to shine. They are happy because they chose to be Queens To the ladies in the house………..“
Last I checked, queens marry kings or are born to nobility. Men should be advised to avoid women with delusions of grandeur. That, however, still leaves the question of what makes relationships successful? The truth is, there are no one-size-fits all. However, it takes a lot of hard-work and compromise. It takes a lot of humility. Add to this the fact that women need men who are actual men. So unless you want to be the breadwinner who pays all the significant bills for your family including giving your husband an allowance/ stipend, do not listen to Mrs Guardian Angel.