Willis Raburu exposed a truth about marriage and young couples

Willis Raburu recently opened up about what led to the demise of his relationship with Marya Prude, his 1st wife and it all boils down to the unfortunate miscarriage she suffered that led to the end of their unborn baby.

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While on the face of things, it would seem like a small issue that any couple can resolve but this is a symptom of a bigger underlying problem that young couples usually face that leads them down the path of divorce.

And what Willis Raburu and Marya Prude’s story exposes is just how romanticised the notion of love and marriage are and this is why so many marriages these days lead to divorce and unhappy, angry divorcees.

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The symptom that broke their marriage was the miscarriage but the greater underlying problem was that their marriage was built on the flimsy BS notion of “love”. And I am here to tell you today that you cannot base a marriage on so fleeting an emotion.

You see, there is a huge disconnect between our generation and the older ones. Previous generations understood that marriages were not about love. That is an emotion that comes and goes, it wanes and waxes. That is why when Willis Raburu’s was rocked with misfortune, they didn’t stand a chance.

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And that is how many modern marriages are set up. Rather than understanding, they are meant to focus on long-term goals such as creating a stable environment for their kids, securing their legacy and building wealth, they are focused on feelings. So right after the honeymoon, all things are downhill for a while but largely undiagnosed.

Also, that gap between generations I spoke of earlier? It explains why modern couples do not turn to their elders for advice when their marriages are rocked. Willis Raburu and Marya Prude grew apart because they were all engrossed in their grief and personal tragedy and any wiser older couple that has survived the same would be able to give you great advice on how to ride out the tumultuous waters.

But he has since moved on to a new marriage, the hope is that he has learnt from his previous mistakes and will translate them now so his is a long-lived marriage to Ivy Namu.

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