“We have had issues over the years” Lilian Ng’ang’a shares news details as to why she dumped Governor Alfred Mutua
Relationships are usually exciting during the first few months, so let’s call if the honey phase; but once that’s over you move on to the boring phase that many couples tend to lose interest which explains the Lilian Ng’ang’a and Alfred Mutua situationship.
Well after dating for 10 years (Ng’ang’a says they were never married) Ms Lilian Ng’ang’a recently decided to call it quits; a decision that has left her in a tight position considering the fact that the governor doesn’t want to let her go.
However speaking in an interview with the Sunday Nation, the former Machakos First Lady opened up about her relationship with the Governor revealing quite a lot about her previous relationship.
When did things start going wrong?
Of course the breakup didn’t happen overnight, meaning one thing led to another so when asked when things started going wrong Ms Ng’ang’a said;
We have had issues over the years. There were inconsistencies from him, but when you do that, you forget some of the things you have said. Most of the time we resolved these issues. However, last year the issues could not be resolved after I called him out.
The second issue was being a control freak. This, I guess, is because he has been in government and so he is used to controlling people. Over the years I have always done things his way. Last year, I told him I needed to do a few things independently, but he was not comfortable with that. It led to a lot of fights between us.
According to Ms Ng’ang’a, having her life controlled by the governor may have pushed her into breaking up with him since she needed her own freedom.
When asked whether being controlled accelerated the break up, Ng’ang’a said;
Yes, it did to some extent. When I told him I was going to get a job last year and actually be employed, it made him very angry. He said I was going to embarrass him by working because it will look like he is not supporting me.
But I insisted that it was about my independence and doing something I enjoyed. Why do a Master’s and then don’t apply it? It makes no sense. I got the job late last year and it was busy and I would take some of the office work home once in a while. We had so many virtual meetings and I would be very busy in the house. I think he felt like he was losing his grip on me and that brought serious fights between us. I have always done things for us as a couple, for him, and never for me.