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7 reasons why most men fear committing

Posted on by Pauline Syombua

When a man tells you he is not ready to commit whether relationship or marriage wise – believe him! Men fear committing for a number of reasons we have explained below.

However it’s also good to remember if a man is not growing and working on his issues; chances are, he will continue making the same mistakes over and over again with woman after woman!

Below are just a few reasons why most men find it hard to settle down or rather committing.

Also read: Why most young men are dating and settling down with older women

Nagging girlfriends/wives

Okay yes, 99% of women are generally nagging and annoying. However if a man is indeed ready to settle down or commit, then he would quickly ignore this by learning how to live with it; however most men are not up for this.

Financially unstable

Most will not tell you that money is the reason they choose not to settle down; but for the wise ones, they see it’s better not to drag somebody else’s daughter into poverty by starting a family. At least with this, a man can weigh himself pocket wise and decide whether he can or cannot support himself and others.

Also read: Effects of dating a Mama’s boy that no one will tell you about!

Lack of maturity

Mamas boys will definitely have a hard time trying to settle down. This is because they already have a lifetime partner (mummy) who will easily provide and prefer everything for her dear son.

Loss of freedom

Also read; Why you keep dating the wrong partners

Settling down means quitting all the side pieces and sometimes it gets hard for a man to let all these go! For this reason most would rather stay wireless than have someone following up with them all the time.

Lack of direction

Just like the subheading, most men from this generation lack the sense of direction. Most who have aged and should already have families prefer roaming and jumping from one woman to another. Call it laziness or lack of direction but they all still sound the same.

 

Effects of dating a Mama’s boy that no one will tell you about!

Posted on by Pauline Syombua

Love is not just a beautiful thing, but an amazing experience with an ugly side especially when it turns sour! So far we have seen couples end up behind bars, dead and for the lucky ones married all in the name of love.

However, there are a few things that determine how a love story will go; and this is where mums come in! Don’t get me wrong but there is nothing wrong with a man loving his mother and wanting to follow every advice given them.

Sandra Kassim with son, Diamond Platnumz

But question is, do they ever grow up?

Well, below are just a few positive and negative effects of indulging yourself with a man who‘s still attached to his mother!

Second to mum

As beautiful as it is to see a man still close to his mother; sometimes it may get annoying. This is because chances of feeling like the 3rd will in your own relationship are quite high! Most men who are attached to their mum’s tend to prioritize their commitment to their mums leaving you on the side lines. With this, it is easy to get frustrated since it is obvious that your man will always side with his mum hence making you look like the bad person

Dating mum and son

Some men will never draw boundaries when it comes to their relationships. This is because they believe having an extra person (mummy) onboard is like killing two birds with one stone! Such men will always involve their moms in the decision making i.e buying land, running businesses and mostly how to react during arguments. If he has no limits on what he tells his mother or what she controls, then I guess you know how it’ll end!

Also read: From Zari to Tanasha, all of Diamond Platnumz’ exes are competing for his mother

Mummy this, mummy that

There is no harm in having a mom –son relationship as long as the boundaries set are respected and followed by your partner. However, having a man depend on his mother for emotional and financial support means trouble! This is because every decision made in the relationship has to go through his mother for approval – which also means trouble!

In touch with his emotions

Away from the negative effects; most women will tell you dating an emotional man is good! Yes, this is true. Sometimes women get attracted to men who can shed a tear here or there simply because they are in touch with their feelings! And of course no one does this well than a mama’s boy!

Openness

A man who is still attached to his mother will always be open for responsibilities – meaning they are reliable! Unlike other men with rowdy behavior, a mama’s boy will always make sure he does not disappoint his partner….and who wouldn’t want this?

Anyway now you know!

5 toxic habits that will leave your relationship dead!

Posted on by Pauline Syombua

There is no man or woman on earth who wants to spend their forever alone and if you happen to have a friend who says ” I enjoy my life alone because I am single” – believe they are lying or probably want to drag you down into their misery! (Just saying)

For those who are in relationship I bet understand that it’s not a walk in the park. There are ups and downs that make the relationship stronger or weaker depending on what issues they are battling with.

I have compiled a list of 5 things that are likely to break up a couple since most assume it’s the best thing to do.

5. Flirting – Some couples believe that flirting ‘without touching is okay. I mean it’s just verbal and nothing serious -right? However this is wrong. The moment a man or a woman allows an outsider to make them feel some type of way…the habit will never die. One will always find an excuse to flirt around without thinking of the long term damage.

4. Brushing off issues – truth be told, most couples prefer to let an issue slide under the mat than talk about it. However what they forget is that the moment you start piling up things they end up growing and the moment things will go South…believe me you will end up being left alone in this cold cruel world!

3. Holding grudges – This has is not any different from brushing off issues! When you refuse to resolve an issue, your partner might take it personal thus hold grudges making the relationship good as dead since it ends up making one feel like they are being treated unfairly by their spouses.

2. Spending time apart – sometimes it’s good for a couple do things separately since not everyone is with a partner that likes the same activities like their spouses. However, this is not a habit that should be practiced often. It is better for both parties to find something they like and do it together instead of assuming – leaving the other wondering whether they are not good enough to spend time with them (spouse).

1. Willing to end things after every argument – if all you can think of is threaten your partner that you will leave every time you have an argument then believe me…you better go ahead and do it before they replace you with a person who is willing to solve issues than think of walking away every time there is a disagreement!