Tedd Josiah is currently on a wave that has him giving relationship advice but the thing about his advice is that it is meant for low tier men but is clothed in a way that it appears to be suitable for everyone but I am here to provide close scrutiny.
Taking to his social media page on Instagram, he recently said the following:
”Love & Legacy.
Marry the one who will keep your dreams alive, the one that won’t be afraid to keep your memory alive, the one that will find it within themselves to keep on building what you both dreamt of and keep going. NO MATTER THE COST!
See some people meet in life and like that collied in the sky’s they leave a bright beautiful sparkle everywhere…. when you meet people like that you embrace them and run with those dreams in order to build an empire.
That’s what true love does to you
LIVE LOVE LAUGH ”
I couldn’t help but laugh at this nonsense. Why you ask? Because it is patently false. It is the same type of nonsense fraudsters like Derrick Jaxn use to make you feel good about yourself and your situation while alleviating your responsibility to actually put yourself in a situation for blessings to find you.
Tedd Josiah seems to believe (and he wants you to aswell), that somewhere out there is a “soulmate” who is just right for you and they will come and complete your world. The truth is, if you know anything about math, the soul mate myth is a lie given there are seven billion people on earth. And Bustle.com broke it down in an easy to consume way:
“We’ll assume your soul mate is set at birth. You know nothing about who or where they are, but — as in the romantic cliché — you’ll recognize each other the moment your eyes meet.
Right away, this raises a few questions. For starters, is your soul mate even still alive? A hundred billion or so humans have ever lived, but only seven billion are alive now (which gives the human condition a 93% mortality rate). If we’re all paired up at random, 90% of our soul mates are long dead.”
“What if everyone actually had only one soulmate, a random person somewhere in the world?” Munroe crunches numbers and finds that, mathematically speaking, the chances of finding your soulmate — if there’s just one out there for you — are slim to none. For his purposes, he defines a soulmate as someone who is in the same age range as you, which means each person has about 500 million potential candidates.
“Let’s suppose you lock eyes with an average of a few dozen new strangers each day,” writes Munroe. “If 10 percent of them are close to your age, that’s around 50,000 people in a lifetime. Given that you have 500,000,000 potential soul mates, it means you’ll only find true love in one lifetime out of 10,000.”
And Tedd Josiah’s argument is rooted in this fallacy. Why? Well, when we deconstruct his advice, we see that he is pedestalizing “the one who will keep your dreams alive”. And this is damaging as it diffuses responsibility for any high-value man chasing their mission to expect help from their “one person”.
This is also a facet of entitlement. You see, Tedd Josiah thinks himself to be entitled to someone who will fight his battles as if she were in his skin “no matter the cost” but this ignores the fact that human beings all fight their own battles for survival. And more importantly, he is not the type of person to do this for another as we saw with his first marriage so why does he think he deserves this sought of treatment?
The type of advice we should be giving little boys as they grow up is that no one but themselves is incharge of their happiness. No one but you is tasked with ensuring you get the best out of life. So keep your head down and focus on your goal.
Tedd Josiah’s advice would have you living one extended teenage fantasy but men should learn discipline! This is the only way for them to realize they are the only ones who can make their lives awesome but there is a price to pay inorder for you to achieve this and that means sacrificing everything in your early life for your mission.
Once your life is great, trust me when I say that the women will gravitate towards you. Or you know, sit down and listen to low tier advice about how there is someone out there for you who will help alleviate your misery by taking on all your struggles.
April 22, 2021