Oga Obinna should seek therapy before dating again
Oga Obinna has opened up quite abit in the past few weeks and he has been talking about everything from his daddy issues to the fact that he is only keen on dating old, dated women. And the irony of everything he has been talking about is the fact that he cannot recognize that he is revealing that he needs to go for therapy.
Let’s take a look at some of his utterances in the recent past ranging from what he has said about his father and what he has said about dating older women and you will understand why I am of the opinion he really shouldn’t date again until he has done major work on himself.
I wish I had a more loving father and a friend.
This statement by Oga Oinna is an interesting one as it reveals to us that he not only has daddy issues but would probably be the type of man seeking for validation from any man he places in the capacity of a “father figure” and this isn’t necessarily a tight criteria so it would include his uncles, bosses and friends. In other words, he is the type of person to do things just so he gets a pat on the head -like a puppy. One can only hope that he only interacts with men who want to bring the best out of him because if he finds selfish role models, they will lead him astray and he run to do as they advise and to his demise.
If My father would have been present, maybe I would not have felt the urge to go out of my shell and probably I wouldn’t be me. Or maybe If I had that one loving dad, I would be a better, a better human being. I would be a better father, better friend maybe.
This is a man drowning in self-doubt. He is unsure of what being a good man is, so he probably also doesn’t understand how to be a good father and husband. And yet Oga Obinna is a father to an entire brood. This is a very worrying thing because regardless of his intent, there is a reason why it is said that the road to hell is paved with good intentions…
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Think about it this way, in Obinna, we have a man who is still grappling with the idea of masculinity and manhood. He is still wrestling the phantom of his father. Yet, he has children to raise. Trauma is like a river getting sewage flow dumped into it and that shit always flows downhill and who do we have at the end of the river? His children. Broken men raise broken children into broken adults.
And then there is his very flawed understanding of the dating marketplace. This is a guy, we must note, was at some point dating the daughter of a bishop who was a stripper who would perform on social media at the height of the Corona lockdowns. So in a nutshell, he is a garbage judge of character who finds no fault in dating heaux.
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Add to this, the fact that he shared his views on dating which amounted to some virtue signalling drivel about only finding older women more attractive and ready for dating and you will quickly understand why I am saying he needs therapy:
I do not want to define someone’s life, when they mirror me…. Okay this is what I mean, most girls how they end up in their 30s is the boyfriends they dated in their 20s.
He is on some level, aware that no woman should model herself after him because as a man, he isn’t a leader nor does he have substance worth sharing. He makes it seem like he is doing some greater good for the women he would date but the truth is, he understands he is hollow. Beyond his celebrity, he has nothing to offer in a relationship. So he prefers older women. Or to put it in a different way, Oga Obinna is a man grappling with yet another issue: Oedipus Complex.
The attachment of the child to the parent of the opposite sex, accompanied by envious and aggressive feelings toward the parent of the same sex. These feelings are largely repressed (ie. made unconscious) because of the fear of displeasure or punishment by the parent of the same sex.
To put into context, Oga Obinna has gone on record to accuse his father of being abusive to him. Who do you think he ran to for comfort and protection? His mother. While it is normal for men to transfer their initial sexual attraction to their future partners (or women from whom they seek commitment), his was an over-attachment borne of a desperate need for love, affection and comfort from his mother.
But I think I have hit the very ceiling of the Overton Window so let me calm down. Anyway, Obinna needs to go to a therapist so he can unpack some of the trauma he is lagging over his shoulder from his childhood and youth. He needs to do so for the sake of making himself the best possible version of himself but also for his children and his future partners. Afterall, it is not natural for a man to be a rolling stone of which he is to some extent, having children by multiple baby mamas, none of whom are with him in a committed relationship.