Lilian Muli is upset once more after coming to the realization that her choice of man, partner, husband (community or otherwise) and father of her youngest son is not exactly keen on monogamy.
You see, she chose to have a relationship with a man most people warned her wasn’t quite cut out for monogamy. And when these naysayers and her common sense appealed to her to come to her sense, she simply called them all out for being haters. now Lilian Muli is left crying and announcing to us about the fact she is now single.
Lilian Muli took to her social media to post some solipsistic post seemingly painting herself as a victim of a man who only wanted her as a trophy.
The only regret I have in life is settling for less when I could have had so much more. Set your standards and stick to them unapologetically.
Blah blah blah…
I’m officially single and will now focus on raising my boys. As public figures we meet all sorts of people and most just want trophies whether you are well known or not be very careful who you allow into your life don’t go giving your heart to everyone.
Blah blah blah…
Sociopaths will keep you entangled in their web of lies and you will be one of their many victims. When you actually believe someone is true to you only to find out they are community husbands you are safer stepping aside.
What you will notice about this emotional outburst is the lack of accountability. Lilian Muli has refused to own up to the fact that she chose her partner poorly. At the end of the day, no one is responsible for giving you a better life. You are the only person responsible for giving yourself the life you want.
And this brings into focus Lilian Muli who decided to get involved with Jared Nevaton then get a child by him. Why? For two reasons, the first being that she as an adult made the decision to get involved with him and secondly, for the fact that she was open about her former marriage.
This is not Lilian Muli’s first time at the rodeo. She was married. When that marriage ended, she cried about it having been a waste of her time. Six years to be exact. But she didn’t learn anything from the experience. Let that sink in. Lilian Muli created a life for herself with a man of her choosing. They created a little human being as a result of their union. That marriage, unfortunately, fell apart. When it did, she moved on with life and did not learn a single lesson because she moved on to another relationship (eventually) that resulted in yet another human being getting created and this time she still made the same mistakes and ended up in a temporary situation.
“the female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place.” Today we would say “relationship” rather than “association.” – psychologytoday.com
That simply means that all her crying and distress was brought about by her decisions. We could say she was fooled and perhaps that is truly the case but given her statements about her failed marriage, the adage “fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice shame on me” comes to mind.
And that brings us to the crux of the matter. perhaps Lilian Muli should swallow some humble pie and accept that she is beyond her prime for any high value, or even simply high-net-worth man. She comes with two issues that are significant baggage for any man: her loss of youth (she is no spring chicken) and secondly, she comes with two children.
This means that the type of men who would be willing to settle down with her would either be divorcees, boring but safe men and men who already have wives and children of their own. And each category of men come with their own issues. Divorcees clearly have issues that led to their situations. Perhaps their issue is poor decision-making skills or they directly contributed to the divorce.
With boring men, to be fair these are the men who would gladly play to her tune but she will forever know she simply settle to allow them to make an honest woman of her.
And then there are the polygamists. Usually, these men are wealthy so that side of the equation would be sorted. Then, given her advanced age and loss of youth, she would know to play her position and not be a threat to the already present wife/ wives. Everyone wins here. And this should come easy to her because while she was with child, The Nairobian revealed that Jared Nevaton was still married to an American and she fought for and defended him so she has been practising to be a co-wife.
Lilian Muli made her bed now she should quietly lie in it.
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