7 Common Myths About Sex
There are plenty of myths around sex and our attitude towards pleasure. In popular culture, it is often built up as something illusive or male-centric – so it’s not surprising that many people still feel misinformed in the 21st Century. With that in mind, we have picked 7 of the most commonly-circulated myths with the aim of setting the record straight.
1. “You can tell the size of a man’s penis by his shoe size”
Many people still seem to use feet as an indicator for size… elsewhere. But in 2002, a study of 104 men at University College London found absolutely no correlation between the two. Another conducted in Canada of just 63 men found a very weak link, as well as one between penis length and height. It’s definitely not certain, so for now we’d suggest the only thing you’ll learn by a man’s shoes is his taste in fashion.
2. “Condoms ruin sex”
This is a no brainer. Using condoms means your partner cares and you can relax, enjoy what is happening and worry about getting pregnant or contracting an STI.
Often the sensation of “not feeling anything” is due to a lack of lubrication so adding a little can make it feel more pleasurable.
Make sure you find the perfect fit because men who find condoms uncomfortable could be wearing the wrong size.
3. “Faking an orgasm is OK”
Sam at Jo Divine says:It’s a disservice to your partner by not teaching them what works best for you, even if you don’t want to hurt their feelings.
Most people appreciate a little guidance when it comes to pleasuring their partner. Even if you don’t orgasm it should feel pleasurable, so make sure to tell your partner what you want.
4. “Sex needs to last hours”
Sam at J0 Divine says:Sex should last however long you want it to. Contrary to popular belief that sex needs to last for hours to be considered good: many couples enjoy satisfying sexual intercourse which lasts between 3-13 minutes, according to Penn State Erie researchers Eric Corty and Jenay Guardiani (2008).
Some women find long sex sessions, while men can find this boring and often prefer for it to end sooner rather than later. Other people enjoy slow, sensual sexual pleasure. It depends on who, where, when, why and how you have sex.
If you only have time for quickie sex, then three minute sex is perfect and extremely satisfying. You may not orgasm but it’s fun and might lead to a longer session later that day.
So dispel these myths, and enjoy better sex.
5. “He comes first”
Sam at Jo Divine says:Female orgasms are just as important. If a woman finds a male partner has beaten them to it, why not have your orgasm during foreplay or just tell him he can’t come before you do – this can make sex feel more intense!
6. “You can only orgasm through penetrative sex”
Most women require clitoral stimulation to experience an orgasm and 70 percent of women achieve an orgasm clitorally.
Depending on what position you have sex, some women are able to orgasm this way and is probably due to stimulation of both her clitoris and G-spot which causes this.
7. “All women orgasm”
Sam at Jo Divine says:This isn’t true as some women experience anorgasmia whereby they cannot orgasm. This doesn’t mean they can’t enjoy sexual pleasure. Orgasm tends to be the end of the journey but travelling to that point can be just as much fun than reaching it.
Credit: https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/common-myths-about-sex-and-sexual-pleasure-a6673941.html
